Slow you either ask her out or I'll fly to wherever you live and put together a group of people who will sing "Kiss The Girl" and follow you guys around all day.
ASK. HER. OUT.
Also SFK keeps distracting me with his sexiness so I'm always confused.It happens to everyone. More of a curse, my sexiness is, really.
I would deem it better to be in no relations than to have participated in many that failed to be honest (and don't argue that this isn't true; very few high school relationships will ever result in a successful marriage).
Also, whoever said that it is better to have loved than not at all evidently had no clue what he/she was talking about, because by lacking the experience of love, one would simply have little to no desire for it and would therefore view it in a neutral light.
Plus, asexuals are super coll.
Whoa. Didn't expect a riot. O_o it's not a big deal guys. I guess we would already consider ourselves "friends" but I don't know if that means I'm in the friend zone. I don't think I am. I don't know. Don't want to force things. I don't see her that often which could kinda be a problem.
My gf and I are both going speed dating at Pi Phi on Friday. This could end well or very very badly :P
But once you've experienced true pure love, there's nothing like it...She never gave a damn about my feelings. She's still my friend and I couldn't live without her. But the whole time she was totally unconcerned with me. Maybe it wasn't even her fault, but it was really kind of awful of her.
My gf and I are both going speed dating at Pi Phi on Friday. This could end well or very very badly :P
Yeah... I don't get it. Why are you doing that in the first place?
Isn't it hard to say something like that when (you said) she didn't care about your feelings? :/Agreed. You can have feeling like that, but it's not the REAL TRUE PURE LOVE until you both feel that way. :P
There is a girl that I should've asked out at my middle school, but I choked up every time I had the chance. Now I regret it so much, I'll probably never see her ever again... Why did god have to make me so shy? :(Hahaha! I have that problem too. Right now.
Agreed. You can have feeling like that, but it's not the REAL TRUE PURE LOVE until you both feel that way. :P
Wrong. Sorry to sound like a stereotypical teenager but if what I felt wasn't being in love then I don't know what is.
Sorry, but it sounds like you don't know what love is, and I think I might have an idea why that might be. Once upon a time there was a girl on my baseball team when we were in 2nd grade. I instantly fell for her ways, looks, mannerisms; everything. Yet, we went to different schools so once baseball season ended, so did contact.
Then came middle school, when both schools merged when entering 6th grade. Upon the summer of 7th grade year, I was on a camping trip with family and friends, and this girl happened to be going with one of the families that were camping with us(as in we all would rent out the same few campsites next to each other). So typical middle school magic went down and we started dating. Then, about a week later, typical Middle-School Girl Syndrome(oh yes) kicked in, and she broke it off for the next guy-thing in line. You can only imagine my frustration at her dim-wittedness, and lack of consideration, "but oh, she's young, so maybe youth is the reason to excuse her" I thought. So let's get to high school.
The rest of this story is a little complicated, but essentially, we had on and off 'things' throughout the next few years, but the end result was always the same: she'd one day suddenly be interested in another guy(typically older) and would act as if there had never been anything between us.
SO senior year comes around, and she's already dating one guy who's she had been with for over a year, but in the beginning of the year we start to become really close. Closer than ever, and we sort of develop this deep bond/connection thing. I couldn't ever have been more sure of the feeling of "love" until now. There was absolutely no way that things could go downhill from here, I thought, based off of words and special moments that we had shared. I'm sure you can tell where this is going, and long story short, the whole thing crashed and burned; her lying and sneaking around caused her relationship to crash(even though she was aware of it, and somewhat planned for it to turn out that way(hence the reason for me in the first place), and she at the same time spun more lies and manipulation towards me to help her get through the breakup phase. Once she was out of that phase and realized she was now single and "free," she absolved from the situation entirely, leaving an ice cold shoulder for me, acting as though she never talked to me and nothing had ever happened to begin with. That's when I learned she had channeled her flirtyness and secrecy to a new guy. And the cycle continued(for him, anyways).
In the end, some girls are just SNAKES. If she has no consideration for your feelings now, don't stick around for her, because chances are she will always leave you out in the dust for whatever captures her greater interest at the time. Even if you don't think you could live without her and are sure that you can accept her for her flaws and shortcoming no matter what etc, if she doesn't treat you well in the end, then is that something you really want? You should focus on a girl that you can build a respectable trust with, with some sort of reliability. At least that's what I realized I wanted after that whole situation, and it caused me to re-evaluate myself and my entire perception of love, and I came to great epiphanies about my self towards the end of the year, but at the price of great pain.
So don't go all out for just one girl because you think it's real love. Find someone who will always meet you half way in the end. There's greater strength in trust than passion.
Sorry, but it sounds like you don't know what love is, and I think I might have an idea why that might be. Once upon a time there was a girl on my baseball team when we were in 2nd grade. I instantly fell for her ways, looks, mannerisms; everything. Yet, we went to different schools so once baseball season ended, so did contact.
Then came middle school, when both schools merged when entering 6th grade. Upon the summer of 7th grade year, I was on a camping trip with family and friends, and this girl happened to be going with one of the families that were camping with us(as in we all would rent out the same few campsites next to each other). So typical middle school magic went down and we started dating. Then, about a week later, typical Middle-School Girl Syndrome(oh yes) kicked in, and she broke it off for the next guy-thing in line. You can only imagine my frustration at her dim-wittedness, and lack of consideration, "but oh, she's young, so maybe youth is the reason to excuse her" I thought. So let's get to high school.
The rest of this story is a little complicated, but essentially, we had on and off 'things' throughout the next few years, but the end result was always the same: she'd one day suddenly be interested in another guy(typically older) and would act as if there had never been anything between us.
SO senior year comes around, and she's already dating one guy who's she had been with for over a year, but in the beginning of the year we start to become really close. Closer than ever, and we sort of develop this deep bond/connection thing. I couldn't ever have been more sure of the feeling of "love" until now. There was absolutely no way that things could go downhill from here, I thought, based off of words and special moments that we had shared. I'm sure you can tell where this is going, and long story short, the whole thing crashed and burned; her lying and sneaking around caused her relationship to crash(even though she was aware of it, and somewhat planned for it to turn out that way(hence the reason for me in the first place), and she at the same time spun more lies and manipulation towards me to help her get through the breakup phase. Once she was out of that phase and realized she was now single and "free," she absolved from the situation entirely, leaving an ice cold shoulder for me, acting as though she never talked to me and nothing had ever happened to begin with. That's when I learned she had channeled her flirtyness and secrecy to a new guy. And the cycle continued(for him, anyways).
In the end, some girls are just SNAKES. If she has no consideration for your feelings now, don't stick around for her, because chances are she will always leave you out in the dust for whatever captures her greater interest at the time. Even if you don't think you could live without her and are sure that you can accept her for her flaws and shortcoming no matter what etc, if she doesn't treat you well in the end, then is that something you really want? You should focus on a girl that you can build a respectable trust with, with some sort of reliability. At least that's what I realized I wanted after that whole situation, and it caused me to re-evaluate myself and my entire perception of love, and I came to great epiphanies about my self towards the end of the year, but at the price of great pain.
So don't go all out for just one girl because you think it's real love. Find someone who will always meet you half way in the end. There's greater strength in trust than passion.
Also you make some pretty good points, I guess.
Falling /out/ of love is difficult.
After we broke up, I made myself stop liking the way she acted, and now I'm making excuses so I don't have to see her eyes...
She complains that she doesn't like them.
Brown seems boring to her I guess?, and also she got them from her mom, who she doesn't really like.
Her dark, hazel eyes that seem to shine in the light; I...
blaaaah. Go away. I usually walk by her Spanish class to get to AP Stat, started taking a different path cuz "It's shorter."
The path is slightly shorter, but that wasn't really the main reason. :(
Nah say what you really think. Re-reading my own posts; I'm always full of self-ridicule. I encourage the notion of speaking harsh truths, rather than retaining thoughts and feelings because you don't want to come off as mean.
Repression is an unhealthy thing. Repressing feelings as a sort of defense mechanism is what that sounds like. Accepting that you're really all out attracted to her is the first step to true self-healing. It's easier to carry good feelings for someone you can't have, rather than hatred. It's also easier to move on if those feelings are positive.
Agree, although it's easy to talk like that when there is somebody who loves you for who you are.
Agree, although it's easy to talk like that when there is somebody who loves you for who you are.
Yeah.
Also ETF I never said Margaret treated me like dirt? Why would I still be best friends with her if she treated me like dirt?
She never gave a damn about my feelings.^This could be interpreted as "She treated me like dirt". It could mean "She was blind to/didn't care about mah love". Just sayin
If we made an NSM version of Midsummer's Night Dream, who would be who?I would probably be Demetrius XD
^This could be interpreted as "She treated me like dirt". It could mean "She was blind to/didn't care about mah love". Just sayin
Thanks SFK. I was gonna go and look for that quote. But yeah. And guys, even if I didn't have someone like that I'm still right. Now enough of your pity parties. Is it easier for me to think like that? Yes. Does that make me any less right? No.
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Also Slow, I recall you telling me she found out you basically had a huge thing for her and kind of made fun of you? Didn't really care? Etc?
No, Margaret would NEVER make fun of me for that. What basically happened is she didn't feel the same way and so felt awkward and I think hoped I would just get over it.
^ I know there are people who like me the way I am, but these are not the people I fall in love with usually. And even if I do, the feeling's never mutual.
Point is, most guys I fall in love with, are superficial bitches, only looking at what's on the outside. But never mind, enough of this whining of mine.
*Actors, XD.
Anyways, I guess I'm sorta looking for a relationship right now but not really trying at all? :P
That's good, since relationships are usually coming when you aren't expecting it at all and when you mostly need it. Things will be well =)
Haha, exactly. Just when you stop looking at someone like some kind of object xD
That does sound pretty sucky though, I'll admit.
My boyfriend doesn't care for Valentine's Day, I've known this. Never expected him to do anything. But last year around this time I was talking about how I had always gotten flowers for the past few years on Valentine's Day. He said he'd send me some the next (this) year. I'm not that surprised he forgot and I don't plan on saying anything because it's not really a big deal.. but it kind of sucks. :/ Maybe I'm just expecting too much. It's not like he doesn't make me feel loved every day otherwise.
Ok what the hell. Seriously somebody tell me if I'm overreacting.
Told my gf we were going out to dinner tonight. Went to town over the weekend to get a couple things to give as a gift, paying drivers along the way to get me there. Got a pretty thoughtful gift for her based on an inside joke and wrote on a card, all that stuff you're supposed to do. Overall, I'm trying to say I put a lot of work into it.
What do I get?
A chocolate bar.
But not just any chocolate bar- a Hershey's chocolate bar. The thing wasn't even wrapped. She just handed it to me.
Now granted, she did say how wonderful of an evening it was, she apologized that it wasn't as planned out, and she did thank me for it all afterwards. I don't really know what to think. But I know my college student bank account is certainly not happy. Bah. I'm not basing our relationship based on the things we get, but it just seemed very odd.
As long as it's shaped like a heat, it's appropriate. You can poke holes in it and microwave it...or maybe that's just sweet potatoes.
I've been reading this thread for a while and I've realized that most of you are far too young to be stressing out over these things. Aren't most of you in high school? Most of the issues described here all revolve around one fatal flaw: young people are selfish. We all are, don't try to deny it, it just comes part of the package of being young. It's just as well, I doubt any of you here are in these relationships hoping for it to last for years. If you are then I wish you the best. But since most of you are in high school, do you really think that your bf/gf are thinking totally selflessly. I know I didn't when I dated, and it's clear that neither are most of you; and that's fine. You are at a point in your life where you have very few responsibilities, maturation comes when those responsibilites grow.So true! I have learnt the exact same thing, but not through experience. I just know that at our age, relationships don't usually last and people don't take it seriously.
I say "expect nothing" because I mean just that, expect nothing. Expectations come with time and habit, which in situations like these amounts to the order of many months, years possibly. If you give your bf/gf a gift out of the kindness of you heart, good for you; but unless they practice the same thing regularly, then they won't reciprocate. That's not a reflection on either of you, but its just a measure of longevity. After a year or so, you may find the two of you going out regularly, exchanging random little trinkets every now and then, and begin treating each other as a constant factor in each other's lives.Good! I'll keep that in mind for the future, especially if it's someone very important to me.
For those of you who have your eye on someone special, talk to them. You don't have to waltz up to them and ask them out, just find a common interest and start talking. If you want to date someone, figure out what you are looking for. If you just want to get into a relationship just to "give it a shot", I guarantee that it will not last very long unless you both decide that it is something worth pursuing. If you want to be dating someone for years to come, then figure out if they want the same.Some more good advice! Thank you! I always have trouble talking to a particular someone, so this should help me. :D
Also, be wary of the distinction between Love and Lust. Both are powerful emotions that often feel the same upon first glance. An easy, but lengthy way to distinguish to two is to wait it out. Feelings of Lust will always give way to the next flavor of the week, Love is a bit stronger and will last longer. Be careful though, Love is not permanent, it is a fleeting emotion that requires constant nurture to keep alive and fresh. Every couple of months or so do something big romantically. Gestures like these are good way to keep things alive and prevent falling into a rut.SO TRUE! Some of my friends are idiots and are all into the lust thing. I would never find someone attractive if they didn't have a wonderful and unique personality. :)
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IronChef Foicite: well, there's a lot of reasons
IronChef Foicite: i mean, roses only last like a couple weeks
IronChef Foicite: and that's if you leave them in water
IronChef Foicite: and they really only exist to be pretty
IronChef Foicite: so that's like saying
IronChef Foicite: "my love for you is transitory and based solely on your appearance"
IronChef Foicite: but a potato!
IronChef Foicite: potatos last for fucking ever, man
IronChef Foicite: in fact, not only will they not rot, they actually grow shit even if you just leave them in the sack
IronChef Foicite: that part alone makes it a good symbol
IronChef Foicite: but there's more!
IronChef Foicite: there are so many ways to enjoy a potato! you can even make a battery with it!
IronChef Foicite: and that's like saying "i have many ways in which I show my love for you"
IronChef Foicite: and potatos may be ugly, but they're still awesome
IronChef Foicite: so that's like saying "it doesn't matter at all what you look like, I'll still love you"
So true! I have learnt the exact same thing, but not through experience. I just know that at our age, relationships don't usually last and people don't take it seriously.
Good! I'll keep that in mind for the future, especially if it's someone very important to me.
Some more good advice! Thank you! I always have trouble talking to a particular someone, so this should help me. :D
SO TRUE! Some of my friends are idiots and are all into the lust thing. I would never find someone attractive if they didn't have a wonderful and unique personality. :)
I honestly think we could make our own season of How I Met Your Mother with the content in this thread.
Maestro, you want to become my psychiatrist? I'm sure you have more stuff to tell than she does.
Gee. Thanks.
GUYS.Go to Costco.
GUYS. WE HAVE TO START GIVING OUT POTATOES TO PEOPLE.
How much do they cost, anyways? And what would we package them in? XD
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IronChef Foicite: well, there's a lot of reasons
IronChef Foicite: i mean, roses only last like a couple weeks
IronChef Foicite: and that's if you leave them in water
IronChef Foicite: and they really only exist to be pretty
IronChef Foicite: so that's like saying
IronChef Foicite: "my love for you is transitory and based solely on your appearance"
IronChef Foicite: but a potato!
IronChef Foicite: potatos last for fucking ever, man
IronChef Foicite: in fact, not only will they not rot, they actually grow shit even if you just leave them in the sack
IronChef Foicite: that part alone makes it a good symbol
IronChef Foicite: but there's more!
IronChef Foicite: there are so many ways to enjoy a potato! you can even make a battery with it!
IronChef Foicite: and that's like saying "i have many ways in which I show my love for you"
IronChef Foicite: and potatos may be ugly, but they're still awesome
IronChef Foicite: so that's like saying "it doesn't matter at all what you look like, I'll still love you"
CHALLENGE ACCEPTED.
And it will be LEGEND- wait for it.... -DARY!Haaaaaaaaaaaaaave you met Whirr?
Maestro, you want to become my psychiatrist? I'm sure you have more stuff to tell than she does.I would, by my rates go up exponentially after the 6th hour, starting $20 per hour.
And your potato discussion is just hilarious, I'm sorry. If someone would give me a potato, I'd just feel insulted. Yes, I'm aware of my nose being oversized.
I would, by my rates go up exponentially after the 6th hour, starting $20 per hour.
Goddamn friend zone.
Okay...I'm gonna need some advice...This is the best place to get advice, but maybe not the best place for good advice. XD
Same, I had this conversation with roz recently: music >>>>> sex
But yeah, at least try to cheer her up, but don't over-exert it.Definitely. I'm honestly more concerned for her right now than anything. But later down the road if the opportunity comes I might try a relationship with her.
But yeah, at least try to cheer her up, but don't over-exert it, if you know what I mean.*fix'd
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ALL middle school relationships never work out... I've seen too many.*fixed
*fixedThank you.
Middle School relationships are a joke.
Middle School relationships are a joke.
How I Imagine School Relationships, Middle School in Particular:
"Hey there, girl, whadya say about meeting me at the monkey bars so I can buy you some ice cream and apple juice!!!!!!!!!"
"omg youre my prince in shining armour. of course!!!!!!!!!"
*fixed
Middle School in general is a joke.
Jamaha: So, uh, would you like to go out for a coffee?
Girl: Sure! (OMG YES)
Girl: But, you know, as friends. (wait, what)
Girl: I have a boyfriend. (NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO--)
At least you tried xD I haven't even gotten to that.
I know! Instead of "Damn, I just got rejected" I was like "Damn, I just asked a girl out."lol, I've had that feeling before.
I know! Instead of "Damn, I just got rejected" I was like "Damn, I just asked a girl out."
How about those elementary school relationships?
It was so strange seeing someone in a relationship that long ago and in that grade.
you have a bat in the cavewut
My girlfriend says we have sex too much and I don't take the relationship seriously.
Stupid.
My girlfriend says we have sex too much and I don't take the relationship seriously.
Stupid.
TMI. There are more younger people on this website than you thinkIt's not THAT bad compared to some other things I've seen. *Looks at Dude* :P
TMI. There are more younger people on this website than you thinkYou youngin's shouldn't be on threads titled "Relationships" anyway *sits on a rocking chair*
Just a question for you guys... is it weird to date someone with the same name as a sibling?
Thing is, one of my friends is awesome and I'd love to ask her out. She's funny, smart, cute, amazing musician, overall awesome. And she has the same name as my sister. It just seems to me like it'd be kind of...strange. Thoughts?
Just a question for you guys... is it weird to date someone with the same name as a sibling?I would go for it.
Thing is, one of my friends is awesome and I'd love to ask her out. She's funny, smart, cute, amazing musician, overall awesome. And she has the same name as my sister. It just seems to me like it'd be kind of...strange. Thoughts?
Come up with a nickname if it bothers you that much? But it's not like you're thinking of your sister while talking to her :pIt's not much of a big deal. But if your really find it awkward, just give her a nickname (only if she likes it) or just give your sister a nickname.
http://img20.imageshack.us/img20/7112/57613210151681092850092.jpgWhat about it? The image is displayed fine on my computer.
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I blame China
Not to mention they mobbed the church (which kind of pissed off the priests a bit, as they were trying to get Confessions done)... it was quite a sight.Wish i'd seen that.
… I sorta like my 8 year old neighbor...<Aamir refrians from any comment on what read in the above comment> ... </Aamir refrains from any comment on what he read in the above comment>
… I sorta like my 8 year old neighbor...Pedobear approves.
Complimenting a girl's boobs subtly... "YOUR kids will never go hungry"
I just feel that she's really cute and I should protect her/make her happy. Brotherly/protective feelings?
In other words, simply because a person is somewhat younger than you doesn't mean that love between the two isn't possible. Of course, I'm not saying that adults should be dating 8 year olds, but the possibility of marrying them when they're older is certainly possible!
Last night I was talking to my boyfriend and was rather impressed by how well he could read me. Idunno, it's just weird. I've always thought about how I want someone who really knows me, now I've got someone that knows me better than I do. Just thinking out loud, sort of.(i'm guessing) That's the start of eternal relationship.
I have, and I'm great at reading people, doesn't make for a good relationship on its own at the end of the day.
I wonder if UGC has an relationships... xDThat made me LOL surprisingly hard.
Really? I usually realize things like that too late (like years too late sometimes-.-)...but I'm not so clueless about other things xDO_O yeah.
Dropping subtle hints like, "I love you,"
Actually it's usually fairly blatantly obvious when someone wants to go out with you, it's a matter of acting.Unless you're the kind of person that isn't even making eye contact with that person. o.o
You're suppressing your natural psychic abilities.... O:
You're suppressing your natural psychic abilities.... O:I agree, Ruto...you're holding yourself back!
I can't decide if it's cute or annoying that anytime I say 'I wanna know!' my boyfriend says
can you show me?
what?
somethings familiar about the strangers like me
HAHA! That's hilarious! You do know that line is from a song in Tarzan, right?
Just making sure, but how in the metric hell was I supposed to know that?I didn't know hell could be measured in metric units... :P
What the hell is 9 lbs and 3 foot 7??? :(
I love metric units! They actually make sense!To go to kg, divide lbs by 2.2
I don't get why Aussie Nintendo doesn't change Pokemon height/weight back to metric units like the Japanese games... What the hell is 9 lbs and 3 foot 7??? :(
Haha girls like me usually (not usually in a romantic way) but it's totally my fault I'm not in a relationship.I have tons of friends who are girls. Just none who would actually go out with me.
I have tons of friends who are girls. Just none who would actually go out with me.
I have tons of friends who are girls. Just none who would actually go out with me.
Actually for me it's the fear that the attempt of asking will just mess up a potential friendship. :/
It's most definitely not that simple.^what he said
Bring friends seem to be pushing it right now -.-Quite. After that little description of him, forget politeness and just tell him to gtfo. Also, what form of trickery allowed him to get your number in the first place?
Sorry to hear that. Go find and listen to "A Dark Knight" from The Dark Knight soundtrack. It will totally make sense with what you're feeling. Also no cheating, listen to all 16 minutes. It's the most beautiful thing ever and will enhance your feelings on the situation.Don't be sorry, it was actually a good thing. I realized I was in love with the "old her", not the "current her". It's a thing I often slip in to.
Single.what happen?
Single.How u b? ;)
Single.If it was a good break-up: *High Five* :)
Single.
Liars about what?
nor do I want to be (at the moment), in a relationship.That
It's not that I choose to be single just for the sake of it, nor for a lack of caring. I just haven't found someone with whom I'd be willing to take that leap. I realize that sounds cliche, but I don't want to spend the energy building a relationship that I know will not be long term, to the order of years.
At this point, I don't really think a guy is worth a PhD -.-..oh. I guess you're right.
Single.
Well alright then, the Status Quo really is God.
Nevermind.*High-five*
Nevermind.:<
The thing is, people want a long term relationship but they also realize that's not very likely at a younger age. :P^Hell Yeah.
What do you do if you like a lot of girls, but none of them strongly enough to really make a decision on who to go for?
You stop being such a little whore.
What Maestro said.
:-D I actually am, but I was just being ironic. I think reading the modernized version of the creation story (by one of the guys on the site with a hood on his profile pic) really helped. xDI hear that guy is totally awesome.
Oh goodness. SFK, stop corrupting the children.NEVER.
Well, yes, but we have to wait a few years considering university and stuff...I'd like a degree and a job first.Yeah, having stable income is a good idea when considering having teh babies.
Yeah, having stable income is a good idea when considering having teh babies.I read somewhere that the average cost of raising a child over the course of years 1-18 costs roughly 285k. It's a very rough estimate, and almost impossible to calculate accurately.
Psh you guys worry too much. Babies just need a rug for sleep, a toilet, and some raisins right?
Just don't choose to have kids while you can't spend time to raise them (school).
...I'm calling CPS xD
Well anyway I can't think of a worse time for this kind of decision to be made. It's impossible to raise an infant while still in school. Also doubt it's that easy to just find a job and be financially stable that soon after.
^Since he's not the one that's going to have them, it's pretty obvious xDThere's always adoption. Which imo is the better option for our current circumstances.
^Bf has been telling me that for a while. The fun part is I don't want kids, and he wants at least 3-4. We'll see who wins in the end I guess.What Roz wants: (https://www.ninsheetmusic.org/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi923.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fad71%2FJub3r7%2Froz-1.png&hash=4f220a33291423e2b51ccd10100f508e)
Lol you forgot one I could actually make fun of. :PIt's true. Rutato has rejected all of my advances :p
Anyway, I'm too picky. And can't really be motivated in this kind of thing.
It's true. Rutato has rejected all of my advances :p
It's okay buddy. The sushi girl wants you. ~le hugShe's so cute <3
Like I told you, man, ask her if they're hiring! :D"hi, are you hiring? Also, can I have yo numbah?"
^works every time :PThat's no fun :p
As far as relationships go, I had a pretty good relationship that started in January and ended in May, we're still fairly good friends now.
And I'm in a "friends with benefits" sort of relationship with 2 others, but no sex or anything.
That's no fun :plol, I'm a "waiting til marriage" type of person :P
You're all frivolous.(https://www.ninsheetmusic.org/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.zeldawiki.org%2Fimages%2Fthumb%2Fa%2Fac%2FMakar.png%2F250px-Makar.png&hash=008c71a84f50217b4e4002c548232124)
Who's the lucky girl? :D
Everyone is so philosophical about this.What! You're advice works a gem! :D
I guess most of the stuff I know was from listening to a friend talk about marriage for like 8 months. Lol I'm such a noob. And selfish apparently -.-
If you are in a bad relationship at no point should you think to yourself "I'll wait until they feel the same."
If that day never comes, you've convinced yourself to stick around against your own happiness. Or that day could come, but you've had a change of heart, making the break-up more harmful. If you ever feel that there's nothing keeping you two together, then there's no reason for you to stick it out, odds are they feel the same way. Otherwise the break-up will be far messier than if you wait, because not only will feelings be hurt, but you both will have lost time to both get over it and move on.
I've never been the dumper, even if I can tell a relationship isn't working I wait for them to dump me because I'd rather be the one getting hurt by being dumped than hurting them by dumping them.
...Yeah.
What! Your advice works a gem! :D
I dump people if I see that this relationship won't work. I don't want to be in a relationship if I don't want to.
I'm too boss to get dumped. 8)lol, I'm sorry, but I don't think that streak's gonna last very long with an ego like that. just saying.
Somebody has to tell that this relationship is over. That's usually me.
lol, I'm sorry, but I don't think that streak's gonna last very long with an ego like that. just saying.I'm FSM-Reapr and this
Gee, why are everybody so serious around here?! IT WAS A JOKE!!!
I did that once and because of that I hardly talk to her now.:( I'm sorry.
I agree with Jub...Idk, I sorta pursued something like that. Once we broke up, we didn't talk for 2 months before continuing as normal.
In addition, I'm also going to rant that relationships ruin everything -.-
From what I'm observing, you need to do everything with the other person. Apparently any other person becomes trash you can just throw money/ridicule at and have them go away....well shit.
I think there's a possibility I'm being spied on again so I don't really want to say more than that.
From what I'm observing, you need to do everything with the other person. Apparently any other person becomes trash you can just throw money/ridicule at and have them go away.That all depends on the person. What exactly are you observing?
I think there's a possibility I'm being spied on again so I don't really want to say more than that.
Back on topic: What are y'all's opinions on pursuing a relationship with your best friend?Being in a relationship with someone who's already your best friend shouldn't really change the relationship you already have with them. More one-on-one outings and a more open possibility of sexual activity(from holding hands to kissing to sexy time), but that's about it. People put labels on everything: THIS IS BEST FRIEND WHO IS GIRL, THIS IS GIRLFRIEND WHO IS BEST. It's the same damn thing, it's just the relationship gets viewed differently by others.
Back on topic: What are y'all's opinions on pursuing a relationship with your best friend?My best friend in the entire world is a girl - a pretty beautiful one. I know she views me as her best friend in the entire world too. I've known her for 4 years (I knew she existed for 7 years). I Met her 'cause we both play sax in our school band. We're pretty close, tho I dunno why she's hanging with me so much, 'cause I'm probably not that interesting. Anyways, we're that kinda friends that always hugs when we meet each other and say goodbye, no prob holding hands with each other, some friendly kissing...
Being in a relationship with someone who's already your best friend shouldn't really change the relationship you already have with them.This was my case. In my pack of friends it's me and her who are closest. We might've been extra close compared to other best-friend-couples, but making my best friend my girlfriend didn't change, and shouldn't have changed, our relationship.
Back on topic: What are y'all's opinions on pursuing a relationship with your best friend?I would be devastated if a relationship between me and my best friend wouldn't work. That's why I keep relationships and friends separated. I'm too afraid that we wouldn't talk to each other anymore.
I would be devastated if a relationship between me and my best friend wouldn't work. That's why I keep relationships and friends separated. I'm too afraid that we wouldn't talk to each other anymore.I'm sooo(o) glad that didn't happen to me - My best friend is irreplaceable. What's weird to think about is; Chances were, that could've happened :o
I'm sure everyone here will find love, exept those:im sorry mashi, i'll try harder
Sushi girl gave me her name. Annie <3lol. What I imagined:
lol. What I imagined:She asked for my name since I gave it in an earlier visitation and I guess she wanted to verify or something. I introduced myself first then asked for her name since that's the proper way I do things.
"Hello, I'm Annie. How may I help you?"
Not saying that's what happened, just something that popped up.
Damn. My ex-girlfriend is so freaking hot, but definitely NOT worth getting back together for...f-ing puberty.
She asked for my name since I gave it in an earlier visitation and I guess she wanted to verify or something. I introduced myself first then asked for her name since that's the proper way I do things.
She's so cute <3
Yes! Next time try to ask her out!
She asked for my name since I gave it in an earlier visitation and I guess she wanted to verify or something. I introduced myself first then asked for her name since that's the proper way I do things.AWWWW YEAH, TAKING IT TO THE NEXT LEVEL.
She's so cute <3
Shado where are the stalker pics
She asked for my name since I gave it in an earlier visitation and I guess she wanted to verify or something. I introduced myself first then asked for her name since that's the proper way I do things.
She's so cute <3
Relationship status change!
From: Eternally Single
To: Officially giving up.
Yay.
Damn. My ex-girlfriend is so freaking hot, but definitely NOT worth getting back together for...f-ing puberty.friends with benefits ;)
friends with benefits ;)
Relationship status change!
From: Eternally Single
To: Officially giving up.
Yay.
:( I guess that means more science fairs for you to go to. But hey, won't you have more time for yourself?
This is a big day for me. I know I love my girlfriend, and I think she loves me too. It's only been 2 months, but love is blind.
I'm asking her to marry me tonight. Wish me luck!
This is a big day for me. I know I love my girlfriend, and I think she loves me too. It's only been 2 months, but love is blind.O_O
I'm asking her to marry me tonight. Wish me luck!
This is a big day for me. I know I love my girlfriend, and I think she loves me too. It's only been 2 months, but love is blind.We'll keep your seat in the "My life sucks Thread" warm for ya.
I'm asking her to marry me tonight. Wish me luck!
We'll keep your seat in the "My life sucks Thread" warm for ya.
I'm kidding, gl bud.
Science fair? Not really sure if I've ever been to one, or if the campus can be called a continous one.
And if I get more time for myself now, well, the day only has so many hours.
Good luck, but I wouldn't rush into such a huge commitment. If it's what you want, go for it, don't let me or anybody else stand in the way of your future.
I tripped today and broke my knee.So you can imagine that it was hard. But extremely romantic. I gave her a golden ring that has few little diamonds in the inner side of the ring, which is supposed to let her know that she's beautiful inside also! Guys, she actually said: "Yes!!! Yes yes yes!!! *screams a little bit* I will marry you!!!"
She said:
YES!!! XD
I'm so happy! Let me tell you how I purposed: We went to eat in an expensive restaurant, then after we had talked for while, I purposed which was hard because:So you can imagine that it was hard. But extremely romantic. I gave her a golden ring that has few little diamonds in the inner side of the ring, which is supposed to let her know that she's beautiful inside also! Guys, she actually said: "Yes!!! Yes yes yes!!! *screams a little bit* I will marry you!!!"
That was the happiest moment in my life! Do not ever and I mean ever doubt the power of love!
<3
Wow you've asked her to marry you? Good job bro!fixed i guess.
What questions would one ask someone to get to know them better?
Mention Pokemon :D
What questions would one ask someone to get to know them better?How long you been working here?
How long you been working here?*takes notes*
Do you go to school? Where?
Video games. You liek?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely will reproductive activities occur between us in the near future?
You seen any good movies lately?
How long you been working here?
Do you go to school? Where?
Video games. You liek?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely will reproductive activities occur between us in the near future?
You seen any good movies lately?
Aaugh you are such a bitch aren't you....I can understand if you don't want to be friends with me anymore but I don't think ignoring me completely is called for, especially when you still have my flash drive from last year and I need it back.That flash driving-hoarding bitch!
Although, let's be honest...I'd be fine without the flash drive if you would just talk to me.
That flash driving-hoarding bitch!
You're not serious about #4, right?Not serious? It's the important question of all!
Slow you are the King of spontaneity.
This isn't M******t is it? :O
Not serious? It's the important question of all!
You like ice cream cone hats? -.-(https://www.ninsheetmusic.org/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fcn1.kaboodle.com%2Fhi%2Fimg%2F2%2F0%2F0%2F165%2Fc%2FAAAAAnlVVwMAAAAAAWXHyw.jpg%3Fv%3D1224625033000&hash=4f9e54cc2f035a8083e4a9a2c67ece99)
You like ice cream cone hats? -.-Of course! It's the most DELICIOUS hat there is!
Why am I so awkward?
She probably doesn't want to go out with some jobless loser like me.
Shadoninja, a winner is you and if she can't see that, MAKE her see it.
UGH!! Why are females so vexing?If things were easy, it probably wouldn't be worth it.
UGH!! Why are females so vexing?
1) Don't call girls/women "females"My apologies.
SlowPokemon, I love you.
I love you as well, you lascivious beast
;)
Also, good night, Ruto.
A+++++++++ :DDon't encourage her you fools D:
Yes*changes identity and moves to antarctica*
if you have a crush you have to refer to it as a sushi girl crush
Blame Shado :3
This may surprise you but girls actually aren't flattered when you refer to them or their friends as bitches
This may surprise you but girls actually aren't flattered when you refer to them or their friends as bitches
Yeah, I found it pretty insulting -.-So apparently it's only okay when LITERALLY EVERYONE ELSE ON THE FORUM uses the word to describe a woman they disapprove of?(Do I even need fucking examples?)
So, some BITCH decided to take my seat next to cute girl today. And then we were assigned a project in which we were to work with a partner over the next two weeks and the same BITCH asked cute girl to be her partner before I had the chance. WHAT A BITCH, STEALIN' MAH WIMMINS!*cough* happens to me all the time *cough*
We now interupt this thread for KITTENS:That, sir is going on my sig.
GOD DAMN, I WAS JOKING. You guys are making want to smash my face through a table right now. Seriously.
Just ignore it, Kefka's a prick and it's not worth arguing with him
She has a boyfriend >.>awww...sorry Shado :(
2)Escaped the friend zone? is that even possible?Its possible! I did it literally 45 minutes ago.
awww...sorry Shado :(
2)Escaped the friend zone? is that even possible?
Taylordingdingding
As I'm gay, I'm not engaged nor married.
'Cause the damn gov'ment be hatin on me... That and I'm super shy. ::)
Well me, Roz, and Hugo are married to ETF.
Okay, decided to ask a question, because I honestly have no idea what to do.
What would be an extremely romantic surprise for the girlfriend, when you want to tell that you're sorry for being busy and not spending as much time with her than you're supposed to?
totes longest question ever
What would be an extremely romantic surprise for the girlfriend, when you want to tell that you're sorry for being busy and not spending as much time with her than you're supposed to?
As I'm gay, I'm not engaged nor married.
There's a girl in my class, who's trying to make life suck for me (when we're together with other people, that is), like bullying me, but when we're alone, she can't let my hands go.Why do you dislike her?
What's the diagnosis (as Slow would put it)?
I really really dislike this girl...
There's a girl in my class, who's trying to make life suck for me (when we're together with other people, that is), like bullying me,
but when we're alone, she can't let my hands go.
I thought he already had a girlfriend?! :oIf that's true, than why is he holding hands with another woman HMMMMMM?
She may in fact like you a lot. I think you should ask her out to catch her off guard.That doesn't change the fact the I dislike her.. She's not really a 'good person' when we're alone either,
My best friend in the entire world is a girl - a pretty beautiful one. I know she views me as her best friend in the entire world too. I've known her for 4 years (I knew she existed for 7 years). I Met her 'cause we both play sax in our school band. We're pretty close, tho I dunno why she's hanging with me so much, 'cause I'm probably not that interesting. Anyways, we're that kinda friends that always hugs when we meet each other and say goodbye, no prob holding hands with each other, some friendly kissing...This made me think that Jompa has a girlfriend.
There was a period where we thought "hell, lets just make it official!" - Nothing changed between us! We were as good as the same friends we were before - tho I know lots of people who consider what we were WAY more than friends, which we kinda were - We were kissing as friends. Seeing how pointless it was to make it official, 'cause we both enjoyed "friendship" instead of "dating", we broke up, and we're still as close as ever. We still hug, we still hold hands, we still kiss each other - I think I prefer it this way, but I might get a problem if I met someone else - 'cause then I'd at least have to stop kissing this girl.
You asked about opinions on pursuing a relationship with your best friend. I'd say it would depend on how close you are to your best friend. This was my case. In my pack of friends it's me and her who are closest. We might've been extra close compared to other best-friend-couples, but making my best friend my girlfriend didn't change, and shouldn't have changed, our relationship.
I'm waiting for the right moment to tell.The best moment is now. Just call her and be like, "I want to talk." Then take her out to a nice dinner and over the course of dinner (Maybe after after a few alchoholic drinks) say,"Right, now I invited you here because I'm going to the USA for 2 years. You wanna come?" And viola! Subject is notioned and what ever comes after that would be the best outcome of all.
And viola!
Not sure if intentional or notNot intentional. I just suck at spelling :P
I hate to brag, but I'm pretty much the best pianist and jazz-guitarist from the people in my age of my school.Where in the US? Sorry if Im interrupting something, but I keep waiting to walk into someone somewhere and freak out because I know them
I've been in touch with the school now for a while, investigating the opportunities I could have by going there.
I'm already planning my audio tape I'll send there. If they like my tape, they'll invite me to live auditions in there in March. If I get there, I'll start in August(if I recall).
I'm sure I'll get there, if I decide to.
I told her.
I'm not leaving alone. :D
We have spent the entire evening to see possible choices for her.
She'll try to get in the NYIT.
Yaaay *no smiley face can express a big smile like this*
She really must love you!
I told her.:DDDDD So happy for you, Reapr! She really must love you! Congrats!
I'm not leaving alone. :D
We have spent the entire evening to see possible choices for her.
She'll try to get in the NYIT.
Yaaay *no smiley face can express a big smile like this*
I told her.Congrats FSM! :D
I'm not leaving alone. :D
We have spent the entire evening to see possible choices for her.
She'll try to get in the NYIT.
Yaaay *no smiley face can express a big smile like this*
Ohh that's great. Easier said than done sometimes though :/What's the club? Chess club? Anime Club?
So this guy that my friend says is flirting with me invited me to go to the meetings at this school club. I don't really know what to say...he's nice but I'm not really into interested in anything, really. Also I don't like being flirted with -.-
I will move in with my angel tomorrow.
I have to sell my old apartment. :( I love this house, even though it's wayyy to big for me. 3 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms lol.
BUT, I get rid of the day care center downstairs. :DDDDDDDDDD Stupid noisy pokemonz...
loool you Americans ::)Wait, you not american?
In here marriage usually comes after moving in with your partner.
loool you Americans ::)
In here marriage usually comes after moving in with your partner.
I come from Bejing.
Ni hao.
It usually does here, too.
TZP is cray.
It is a very common thing for a couple in the US to move in together before marriage, heavily evidenced in popular culture as well as actuality.
So what are all of your opinions on making a relationship "facebook official"?
Personally, I think it's unnecessary, frivolous even, to be required to let your 200+ "friends" know that you are dating someone before its acknowledged by the public. I suppose that's just the society we live in, but if two people want to be together, why do we need to advertise it on facebook?
So what are all of your opinions on making a relationship "facebook official"?
Personally, I think it's unnecessary, frivolous even, to be required to let your 200+ "friends" know that you are dating someone before its acknowledged by the public. I suppose that's just the society we live in, but if two people want to be together, why do we need to advertise it on facebook?
^Women-we'll never understand them.This coming out from a 14-year old? Just saying. >.>
This coming out from a 14-year old? Just saying. >.>Wisdom can come from the most unlikely of places...
I can't say that I would know anything about relationships, but maybe you two weren't meant to each other. There will be someone else, I'm sure of it. Sorry Sheikah and better luck next time.
This coming out from a 14-year old? Just saying. >.>
This coming out from a 14-year old? Just saying. >.>You're 14 too bro, both of you, shut up.
I can't say that I would know anything about relationships, but maybe you two weren't meant to each other. There will be someone else, I'm sure of it. Sorry Sheikah and better luck next time.
We were all 14 once...once.I was never 14.
On another note, are guys always as extremely obvious (and silly) as to when they like a girl, or is that just the guys in my schoolha. ha ha.
^Women-we'll never understand them. Sorry to hear that.
Ummmmmmm okay...relationships...okay...hold on...relationships...okay...gimme a sec...uh...hmmm.
Once I hugged a girl. That counts, right?
why does everyone think women are super mysterious and cryptic when it comes to relationships oh my god men can be that way too
stop applying it just to women
why does everyone think women are super mysterious and cryptic when it comes to relationships oh my god men can be that way tooThis was exactly what I was thinking.
stop applying it just to women
why does everyone think women are super mysterious and cryptic when it comes to relationships oh my god men can be that way tooI wasn't, that's just how it is around where I live.
stop applying it just to women
This coming out from a 14-year old? Just saying. >.>I'm not trying to be some all-powerful swami or anything, I'm just talking from my own experiences.
It sounded like you were. I'm not going to continue with this, but that's not a good mindset to have. Just saying.I know that's how it sounded, that's why I was trying to say that's not how I meant it to sound. I'm not going to continue this either (*gasp* we must be twins) because I didn't think everyone would get so worked up over one comment. By the way, it's not a mindset, it's a choice, out of a couple. Depending upon the situation one is in, one should respond to their surroundings appropriately, instead of blindly following an expression they heard the day beforehand.
Eric?
wat r u doin
Eric
stahp
So I may have done something very stupidSame thing. But good job, bro.
Or I may have gotten a girlfriend
I has a problem. There's one girl who obviously has a crush on me. I like her too but the thing is that I don't really want a girlfriend. Or I'd rather say that I don't think that I'm capable of having a relationship. I've always thought that I would be a lousy boyfriend. Most of the time I just want to be alone and she would probably want to hang out as much as possible. But I don't want to reject her either if it comes to that she confesses her feelings to me straight and clear. Part of me still isn't totally against of the idea of having a relationship. Sometimes it feels like a right thing to do and sometimes it feels just way too complicated.I would go for it. Tell her you'd need some time alone she'd probably understand. You'll never know unless you try. If it works, great, if not than you've gained some relationship experience.
Why is it impossible for me to be just good friends with any girl goddammit.
I has a problem. There's one girl who obviously has a crush on me. I like her too but the thing is that I don't really want a girlfriend. Or I'd rather say that I don't think that I'm capable of having a relationship. I've always thought that I would be a lousy boyfriend. Most of the time I just want to be alone and she would probably want to hang out as much as possible. But I don't want to reject her either if it comes to that she confesses her feelings to me straight and clear. Part of me still isn't totally against of the idea of having a relationship. Sometimes it feels like a right thing to do and sometimes it feels just way too complicated.Relevant
Why is it impossible for me to be just good friends with any girl goddammit.
Relevant
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tXmLRHnoSAs
Shes not on her period btw (for those with early speculations),Considering its been proven that the menstrual cycle has no actual effect on a woman's emotions(other than being pissed off because of getting cramps and such), I'd say that rules it out as a possible reason.
Hang in there sport. One day you'll look back on these high school escapades with nostalgic, smiling amusement and fondness.Melancholy quote FTW.
*claps* What a good manthanks ::)
And once again... MOVE TO SOUTH JERSEY DAMMIT
You're young, it happens. The fact that she liked somebody else and he liked her in return meant you didn't have much of a shot anyway. At least you got all that off of your chest, which makes you feel better in the long run.true, true. but women are frivolous and change their minds alot. just days before that, she was moping about how she saw his arm around another girl...it was his sister xD
And Bubbles, will you please take me back? I promise not to stray too far anymore (even though I'm technically still on hiatus).Fine, but only because you asked nicely.
Turns out somebody told Ayla I liked herMurder them.
Yay for studying in a place with twice as many boys as girls...
ReelBig Fish ftw
Reel Big Fish ftwFSM is now the collest person on NSM.
Take a train from NYC and then fall in love with a super pretty girl you see on the other side of you on the seating.
Then buy her some ice cream and date her and marry her and live happily ever after.
And if that doesn't work, you've probably met Ruto, Saria, and me, so who cares about love???
Anyhow, everything will be fine, Kman96. To be quite honest, I feel it's too early for you to fall in love yet. I would recommend waiting until after college or once you have a vocation. That way, you'll have a much better idea of what you're doing in life and are set in necessities. Not to mention (and I mean no offense by this, since it applies to mostly everyone) that you'll be both mentally and emotionally mature by then. You'll be able to mitigate your feelings and rationalise them to an extent. Love isn't a huge movie; we're living reality, which is much different. Your plan to ask her to prom may have been ideal, but it wasn't necessarily utilitarian. Speaking to her about it was a much better direction, I feel, so I'm glad you ended up going that route.
Anyhow, if you want my philosophy on all of this, I don't think you should pursue a relationship. I never quite understood the purpose of gong through some awkward phase in which one asks another to be a boyfriend or girlfriend. I feel that if you're truly close to someone, you never should need to go through that phase. It'll be greyed out. So long as you both enjoy being with each other, your relationship will progress without either's urging. The best way to find something is by not looking for it at all, after all.
And if worse comes to worst, you always have us to love... if you know what I mean. ;)
Her girlfriend looks very pretty.She's a lesbian?
Punch her in the face. That's how I get all the ladies. And some men too.lol
My good friends, it would appear that I have feelings for a girl. I do not know how to act upon these feelings, and therefore am feeling "butterflies" in my stomach. These feelings are also causing confusion, and a number of other unwelcome side effects. I really do wish that women were simpler.*squeals*
Yes, but that wasn't intended to hurt me, i think? Idk what goes on with her head..It seems as if poor Jompa needs a "real" solution to this situation. D:
My locker is right where her desk is, so she used to headbutt me when I had to bend over right next to her..
Aaand I'm just now realizing how idiotic that sounds.. I am afraid I've gotten used to her being a total weirdo. D:
I just don't want anything to do with her.
Might be a little hard, since she's in my class, but I hope she also wants to keep some sorta distance..
But that just left me feeling friendzone'd.. :pI've never understood that... you can't force people to like you more than just "as a friend"... :P
Haha I'm going through something similar myself. I think it'll be fine as long as she doesn't keep pursuing you. The awkwardness will eventually dissipate.Some people keep feelings (grudges, more like it :P) for quite some time, unfortunately...
it's someone who I think Kman used to like?yup. I was über obsessed with her in like 7th grade, and yeah, she's cute, and also a superNERD. like, nerdier than me and eric. and my nerdy, I mean like smart, not like geeky, but like ocd about grades. she's incredibly attractive yes, but we're just friends now :)
My favorite valentine I saw today:
(https://www.ninsheetmusic.org/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2F25.media.tumblr.com%2F1a91970ec008d05dcdf69002b3702e75%2Ftumblr_mhx1moggZA1qik7k6o1_1280.jpg&hash=a4a4d5863315729035a9658084e49b63)
CLIFFHANGER
Then Shadowkirby walked in out of nowhere...
Well, this story just gets bette and better!SpoilerShe didn't come to school today~[close]
Hah, those Valentine's cards are great! :D
It's almost ridiculous and contrived enough for opera. Can I claim the rights to this story, if need be?
Hah, those Valentine's cards are great! :DI saw this and thought the NSM valentines were done :(
"The next day, Haruhi didn't come to school."XDDD
Probably suffering from self-induced depression. :PSpoilerShe didn't come to school today~[close]
It's almost ridiculous and contrived enough for opera. Can I claim the rights to this story, if need be?'twould be a great show, Maestro, I am sure.
"You'd never get away with all this in a play, but if it's loudly sung and in a foreign tongue, it's just the sort of story audiences adore--in fact, the perfect opera!" (http://youtu.be/U0n04m__mJ0?t=2m30s);D
Yes, let us pass down our months of collective wisdom to you.It takes a village... uh, online community... to raise a... uh, solve your problems!! :P
No problems, just suspense. I told a girl I liked her, and I have no idea what she thinks!
The simple way of putting it is that I am undeniably attracted to her personality. We both have the same sense of humor, value our academics, love outdoor activities, mock each other at every possible moment... She's honestly that kind of person I would want to be with for the rest of my life.In my opinion, if you like her personality- absolutely love it- that should be enough. If you decide that you merely want to remain friends with her, that's fine (friendships such as that are a great asset for both of you), but just realize that physical attraction is not the only part of a true relationship, something that many people in our modern times (and even in the past) fail to recognize.
The issue I'm facing is that I'm not physically attracted to her in the least. I feel shallow saying how that affects my decision. But at the same time, it really is important that a couple loves each other inside and out. She's not obese, but she is bigger than most girls. Nothing stands out to me that says "wow you're beautiful" like has happened with girls in past relationships. Even the thought of kissing her grosses me out a little.
I don't know. Has anyone felt like this before? There is no one I would rather spend time with, but I also don't feel attracted to her. I know she still likes me... but I also don't want a relationship to ruin the friendship we have. Irl friends think I should do it. They argue that it'll be a long search to find someone who I'm just as compatible with. It's a really hard decision-- whether or not to pursue this.
The issue I'm facing is that I'm not physically attracted to her in the least. I feel shallow saying how that affects my decision. But at the same time, it really is important that a couple loves each other inside and out. She's not obese, but she is bigger than most girls. Nothing stands out to me that says "wow you're beautiful" like has happened with girls in past relationships. Even the thought of kissing her grosses me out a little.
The only advice I can give is that under ABSOLUTELY NO CIRCUMSTANCES tell her this. Honesty is not always best when it comes to stuff like this, and I would rather not know because "ignorance is bliss"Yeah! She'll headbutt you!
As much as I hate how much physical appearance rules over us, I'm afraid that is an important factor. You can't marry a girl whom you can't kiss without being grossed out.It only rules over you if you let it... but then again, maybe I'm just "abnormal." Maybe I place too much trust in people...
I've found that after I know someone for a week or so I don't even notice anymore.
you love her a lot but as a friend
Yeah! She'll headbutt you!
Ya at this point she just thinks you're teasing her. It's time to have a sit-down conversation and be clear and adamant.This is probably the best solution. If not, though:
Headbutt her.That's a good one too. :P
Headbutt her.
Headbutt her.I will consider!! :P
Food for thought:Step aside kids, FSM is here to answer this question.
How do you know when you love someone?
You just do. There is no way to describe that feeling, but damn, it's the best feeling in the world to realize you love somebody.Hmmm... personally, it was the best feeling in the world when I beat Ruby Weapon after a few hours of summon-spamming (Hades kept it paralyzed, but you couldn't use it every single turn, I believe). :P
Anyways, I don't think anyone on this site really can understand what love means. Maybe if ya go ask someone whose been married to the same person for 40 or 50 years and is still happy to be with them what love is, they could really tell you. I think they would have a much better answer than a bunch of introverted, hormone crazed youngsters(aka The NSM Community)That depends on who specifically it is that you're asking.
What is love?<3
Baby don't hurt me.
Don't hurt me.
No more.
Sounds like you just got a crazy on your hands. Only choice is to shut them down super hard imo. Just expunge all elements of the situation.
Then again she might just be delusional and never get over it.
After third session, which was math (and I don't have math with her), I started walking down to the rehearsal room where I have saxophone lesson.
AND SHE WAS WAITING OUTSIDE.... SHE HAS PIANO ON THE FOURTH FUCKING FLOOR!!!!! WHY WOULD SHE COME ALL THE WAY DOWN TO THE BASEMENT!!!!!!???!?!?! .......
So there we stood. I was just waiting for the fifteen minutes to pass, and she was just there....
Then she asked again: Wether or not I was done 14:45.
And I knew I were; since she had asked earlier..
This time I answered "yes", because I knew she would start investigating if I said I had some more classes or something - BESIDES: She would just camp outside for me anyways.... -.-
Then she said that she wanted me to wait for her until she was done 15:00.
Now, if I were to say "no" I wouldn't really be able to back it up with a reason (other than hating her), so I said fine.
Waiting to go into the room was awful, because I had to stand there with her, and every minute together with her gives me the creeps, and gives her pleasure..
Then some guy from our class walked by, and she started talking a bit to him, because they were apparently supposed to have their piano lesson together.
This was my chance!
I grabbed my sax, and walked behind her towards the room where I was supposed to have my lesson, and knocked on the door (even though I was still two minutes early, and probably pissed of my sax teacher, who were in the middle of lunch..).
As a sort of "notice" that I was going inside, I told Girl X "goodbye", while she was still in conversation with the other guy..
That's when:
She turned away from him, and said: "See you afterwards, right?"
And then my uncle asked "Is this your girlfriend?"
And Girl X replied "Yes!" ........
But she camps outside school for me!!??! D:
OMG what a freak, next time you get out of school just run away from her
I talk too much
SFK talks too much
Jompa is gonna marry this girl so friggin hard.He just doesn't wanna admit it <3
Jompa is gonna marry this girl so friggin hard.
He just doesn't wanna admit it <3This^^^ <3
But she camps outside school for me!!??! D:Friggin' spawn campers. >:(
Eeh, I feel bad for you Jompa: she doesn't understand that she can't force you to love her. She's a very desperate person.SpoilerThen on the stop before she has to get off, someone came aboard the bus.
This was my uncle!
So I said hi, and then Girl X asked who this person was.
I told her he was my uncle.
And then my uncle asked "Is this your girlfriend?"
And Girl X replied "Yes!" ........
Can you imagine what went through my head at that moment? She's putting me through torture, holy shit....
She did start saying something, but I interupted her and said "what? no, what are you talking about?".
And she started looking at me super-intensely! :O
I turned to my uncle and said "it's not true, she's not my girlfriend!"
She did not head-butt me, but she did start crying.
This happened right about when the bus stopped and the doors opened.
So she got up, still crying, and ran out of the bus, crying.. -.-[close]
This is so ridiculous!
Guys, just what am I gonna do about her?
Jompa, the more you post and complain about her and shit, the more I know that you two are going to fall madly in love with one another.Not always true, no, especially in a case like this. This is heavy!
Face it, man. She is your density.
/BacktotheFutureReference
Holy shit an actual guy who doesn't want a girlfriend. :OJompa isn't the only one: I can't stand people who have a boyfriend/girlfriend "just to have one."
BDS, Kman and FSM were both making jokes with those comments. No need to disagree.Actually, that is kinda how I feel. Who knows what the future holds!
You know, Jompa, you seem to exert quite a bit of emotional energy over this girl. You clearly plan you entire day around her, and don't make any reall attempts to avoid her. (You waited a little at school? That's hardly avoiding someone.) You've expressed your felings before (to hilarious results) yet you really don't make the effort to do something about it.This is what I was trying to say. Maestro just made it sound smarter.
Sure, she's clingy, but how much harm has she really caused you? She clearly hasn't done and emotional of mental damage, otherwise you'd make greater efforts to deal with the problem.
Holy shit an actual guy who doesn't want a girlfriend. :Ogay
-.- REALLY? It's comments like these that bother the hell out of me. I personally don't really want a girlfriend, but that's mostly because I hate 90% of teenage girls, no matter how attractive they might be. Same goes for guys. Teenagers in general are a terrible species.Yep; I can agree with that (a bit ironic for me, though? :P).
Maestro just made it sound smarter.like he always does, making crap sound like quantum physics.
You seem to be busy convincing yourself you hate her. If you really hated her, you'd spend as many chances as you'd get putting her down one way or another. You clearly don't want to do that. My argument to you is that, while you don't love, or particularly like her, but she's obviously not going away, and you aren't pushing her away either.
My argument is this: Re-evaluate your relationship to her, with her, regarding her.
I think you just like the fact that somebody's fancying you. Otherwise you would have made it clear to her that you're not into her.in other words, this^ isn't really right
Then I suggest taking more initiative and contacting some form of authority. If you can't do anything about it, you'll have to be sterner about it.
In homestuck, hate is a type of romance. just sayingI still hate her
Have you tried calling your service provider and blocking her number? (if that's possible...)I don't think I'm quite there yet(?) - I mean, I don't feel like these text she's been sending me this week is the main problem. They are a cheap price to pay for being free from her for a week.
And all of this just because I helped her find her phone, the first day of school. After that she's obviously been in love with me.. D: Guh...^Well, right after this, she asked for my number, so I gave it to her, unknowing of what where to come..
How did she get your number? xDlol
^Well, right after this, she asked for my number, so I gave it to her, unknowing of what where to come..actually^
She has been texting me at least four times every day during easter break, and I haven't replied to any of them..Be honest. Get some people to help you with the situation; if you try to work alone, you'll get nowhere. You need to DRILL IT into her head (not literally!!).
..but she just keeps texting me..
She's basically just having a conversation with herself.
^Now, to my point:
Can anyone help me come up with an excuse why I "haven't seen" any of these messages? ???
actually^lol I somehow missed that post
But she's absolutely insane!!I wasn't saying you couldn't (sorry if I came off that way), but I do agree with Mashi. Due to the seriousness of the situation, it's time to take a higher level of action. I really don't know if anything else is better for you right now.
I believe I have full rights to emphasize as much as I want.
I dont understand whats so hard about saying "i dont like you in that way, I dont like you at all, I dont want to be friends with you, please leave me alone or I will literally get a restraining order"Although it may seem as if I'm repeating the same thing over and over (TWG'ers will know :P): You can't convince people who won't listen.
I dont understand whats so hard about saying "i dont like you in that way, I dont like you at all, I dont want to be friends with you, please leave me alone or I will literally get a restraining order"If you cut out the part about the restraining order, I literally said that to her, on Valentine's Day when this whole thing started.
See, then I see you keep agreeing to meet with her so it starts seeming like you are still accepting her presence but ehhhhWhen she insists we go home together, I don't have to agree, it happens regardless - 'cause that's when her stalking activates for full, and she starts camping around places I have to go past, like the main entrance and stuff..
GuysYes.
What the hell am I doing wrong
I can't help you if you're gonna go all "15 year-old girl facebook status" when going about asking questions.
BE SPECIFIC.
I like Kelsey, it's official.damn you.
I like Kelsey, it's official.
I don't think she deserves another chance.There you have it^
Why are people who have no experience over relationships trying to give advice to others who have?
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Don't listen to the thirteen year old. I've been hearing about this for a few months and it doesn't really sound like a healthy relationship :/ it sounds like she's constantly prioritizing others before you and frequently ignores you, sometimes overreacting to small things too. It's a decision you ultimately have to make yourself.I guess relationships are something I shouldn't try to give advice with?
But, seriously:
You should've told her directly before that other guy interrupted.
That is why I am glad I do not have emotions to hinder me.
(grumpy cat)
Oh, it's another zinger from the hilarious BlackDragonSlayerI laughed harder than I should have.
Yeah, Bonus, that's an awkward situation. It's probably best never to ask someone out in the middle of a crowd .__.Yeah, that's why I was trying to get her alone.
Girl X is transferring to England~ That is good news!After all that's happened, that's good news indeed!
Oh, it's another zinger from the hilarious BlackDragonSlayerAaah, entertaining.
Girl X is transferring to England~ That is good news!That is most certainly good news; congratulations (would that be proper to say in a situation such as this?)! :D
congratulations (would that be proper to say in a situation such as this?)! :DHaha I guess :P Well it is kinda mean, but I believe congratulations is appropriate. ;D
Hung out with her the whole day and nighthigh five
That sucks, you had lots of chances to get more information about her though.Bro, you don't get it. At Bonnaroo, anyone you talk to, you feel like you've already known them for years and are just striking up a conversation with a buddy. Everyone is just that friendly. The fact that I know her first name is a lot, considering I had talked to people there for hours during down time and not even got that much. Because you never feel the need to introduce yourself.
high fiveAw. Yeah.
as long as he doesn't find out about my affair with massive mayhem then i should be fine
now i don't wanna do it. ._.
nothx
i don't think there are gay bars in frisco though lolYes there are. Lots of them.
Yes there are. Lots of them.well i'm not in california and i don't want to move :|
well i'm not in california and i don't want to move :|
MY BEST FRIEND AND MY FIANCÉ BEHIND MY BACK WTFwait you and shadow are getting married?
wait you and shadow are getting married?no...
wait you and shadow are getting married?
Everyone on NSM seems to have a Sixpack.... haha I don't believe you :PHahaha I don't think everyone said they did xD
Contemplating doing a douchey selfie to defend my abdomen's honor, but positive it will only further damage my honor as a person.
just add a duckface and everything will be ok
There is a saying that says "All people.will make you suffer, you have to people.worth suffering for"silliest lesson ever
Have you been drinking? xDNailed it!
There is a saying that says "All people.will make you suffer, you have to people.worth suffering for" but I am ever more quickly finding that there are no people suffering for.In the long run, everyone will let you down in an unforgivable way. So instead of trying to accommodate for other mistakes, take what you need from people and forget about. Whether its money, sex, or other selfish purposes, you are the only person who you can ever trust not to let you down. Fuck who you want and take what you want. No regrets. Because people and love and caring will only make.you suffer. That's literally the only.lesson I've.learned about love. Relationships aren't worth it.such brilliance. much grammar. wow.
such brilliance. much grammar. wow.
I don't want to go alone to the dance, but at the same time I don't want to resign to a complete stranger who is at the same altitude as me?Excuse me if I'm being insensitive, but it seems as if the problem lies mostly in your indecisiveness- I'm not sure what advice I could offer other than decide what you think will be best for you. If you're really bothered with going with somebody you don't know, then I'd say going alone would be better... and vice-versa if you're more bothered by going alone (which is what SFK is suggesting).
Just pick a person with the same taste in music as you. I have never met anyone who liked the same music as me the I didn't become super good friends with. Seriously, you can learn a person's entire personality by they're musical tastes.But I don't have a taste in music! (Unless anime openings count...)
Wow, I had to bump this off the second page. You go nsm for being good with the ladies ::)But bubbles you ARE a guy :P
Anyway, my school's Cotillion is coming up, and its custom to bring a date. Since the beginning of the school year, my friend (who goes to a different school) has been sending me pictures and names of guys that she thinks I should take with me. I've never met any of them (and a few she hasn't met either), and the only real characteristic they have is height. I don't want to go alone to the dance, but at the same time I don't want to resign to a complete stranger who is at the same altitude as me? I think I'm supposed to choose soon though since there's all this paperwork you have to fill out if your date isn't from your school
But SFK you make a good point. I suck at meeting new people, so this could be a good opportunity for me. After all, its only Cotillion.Actually I'm getting kinda nervous and unsure again...Should I make an effort to meet him before the dance? I kinda want to meet him in a crowd of other people (or just not one on one), but the only way I could do that is by making my friend throw a party which I'm not sure she's comfortable with.
But bubbles you ARE a guy :P
So? I can date guys if I want to. No one ever said I was straight.
+1 for bubbles
Yeah, it's a new age with new thoughts and ideas. I date men all the time (but I save all of my lovin' for the ladies).xDDDDDDDDDDDDDD
Actually I'm getting kinda nervous and unsure again...Should I make an effort to meet him before the dance? I kinda want to meet him in a crowd of other people (or just not one on one), but the only way I could do that is by making my friend throw a party which I'm not sure she's comfortable with.
xDDDDDDDDDDDDDD
I have no words...Nocturne still doesn't get it!
Remember when I changed my gender to female to fuck around with people?So I'm guessing you were fed up with not getting any as a man?
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does that have anything to do with relationshipsNo but he just posted and I recognized his personal text as something from No More Heroes
or just avoid them if you're not good at confronting people.
How to get rid of feelings for another person? Quickest way to do that is to find someone new, I've found. They basically replace the last person.
This. Works wonders.Except I don't want ANYBODY.
Except I don't want ANYBODY.
Update on my Cotillion stuff: I've had the guys number for like a week or two now and I haven't even texted him. I'm hoping for either someone else or meeting him first, since getting a random message saying "Hey you don't know me but my friend's friends saw you and thought you were tall and cute and do you want to go to my school's dance with me" is a pretty awkward and obvious last resortTry to arrange a meeting before then, if possible!... so you can decide if you need to find somebody else... :P
I mean there's this person who I think is really awesome but I just want to be friends and not have a crush on her.
I mean there's this person who I think is really awesome but I just want to be friends and not have a crush on her.
(you can't completely make yourself not feel anything.)Um...
Just something random I guess it applies but how do you get rid of crushes?
I really thought you meant you wanted someone killed.
Not sure what the point of that was, but my school has a "ring by spring" tendency so all of my friends are getting engaged ;_;Omg already two of my "good" friends (I say good because they were good friends, but they moved quite a while ago so I haven't seen them) who are a grade above me just got engaged, and it makes me go bonkers because they're only about a year or two older than I am...I thought it would be a while before this happened, but now that only means that...THEY are coming...
There's no right or wrong age for marriage, because it ultimately just takes effort from the people involved to make it work. Also, what kind of reception are you having that costs $50,000?Maestro: efficiency expert of the year
My wedding reception is just going to be in a warehouse that's painted solid white and only have a single table that only has unmarked cups of various colored drinks on it. No chairs.
Total cost, couple hundred bucks, maybe more for the painting.
My wedding reception is just going to be in a warehouse that's painted solid white and only have a single table that only has unmarked cups of various colored drinks on it. No chairs.
Total cost, couple hundred bucks, maybe more for the painting.
some barn and a field sex and kids and a family
xDThe strange powers of commas.what's a field sex
that if I have to I can't get out.
*A wild etf appears*
Jumping on the marriage topic, I want to be married one day.
If we're going to be together forever, or plan to be, whatever. Why not? Legal benefits!
That being said, I'M FUCKING TERRIFIED. Don't tell Dan, k. I want to get married one day, I know it. BUT I'M SO SCARED. I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHY. It's terrifying putting a ring on it and knowing that if I have to I can't get out. Even if I believe completely that we'll always be able to talk about things and such. There's just something scary about it. Idk. I'm all over the place, sorry.
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PrRDrz53Q1Ehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=33liUdf3xN0
last I recall ring =/= blood pact unbreakable by space or time ._.;;
Or you're a human beingcheck
who acknowledges the fact that things can changeonly if I let them
and not everything can be predicted.yes they can!
Or you're a human being who acknowledges the fact that things can change and not everything can be predicted.Life can be unpredictable, but that doesn't mean that you say "Ah screw it, whatever happens happens" when making a commitment like marriage. :P
Quotethings can changeonly if I let them
Quotenot everything can be predictedyes they can!
Life can be unpredictable, but that doesn't mean that you say "Ah screw it, whatever happens happens" when making a commitment like marriage. :P
I think he just worded it strangely. It's something that's impossible not to worry about, not because you don't trust the person but because you can't help feeling scared. It shouldn't prevent you from getting married though.
I really hope that was a typo.
You can either fear life and hide, or embrace it and move forward.
There's no such thing as "I'm Ready".
There's no such thing as "I'm Ready".
"Because I know we'll never cheat on each other, we're in love."Hahahaha! It's so true! But even I, with my incredibly unrealistic views of love, know that there's always a possibility to be tempted. Works when you're single, doesn't work very well when you're taken... Better yet, restrain from doing it at all. XD
Something along those lines.
Dun dun dun I'm back
so there's this prom thing and all my girl friends except one apparently have all been asked and they came to me and told me I should bring the last friend but just "asking" isn't enough apparently.
What sort of tacky stuff are girls into?
Dun dun dun I'm backDepends on the dance. If its actually prom, it'd be better to do something fancy (like decorate her car, give her flowers/candy, etc). If its just a smaller thing like Cotillion or Homecoming you could just ask her. Unless shes really high maintenance she won't mind it as a simple question.
so there's this prom thing and all my girl friends except one apparently have all been asked and they came to me and told me I should bring the last friend but just "asking" isn't enough apparently.
What sort of tacky stuff are girls into?
Depends on the dance. If its actually prom, it'd be better to do something fancy (like decorate her car, give her flowers/candy, etc). If its just a smaller thing like Cotillion or Homecoming you could just ask her. Unless shes really high maintenance she won't mind it as a simple question.I have no idea what it is xD but it is called a "prom"
For prom, creativity is best. This one girl in my fourth period class was getting a single anonymous rose every period, then the guy revealed himself at the end of the day. Something cute like that should work
On this subject, I got asked on Friday :D Totally a surprise for everyone, especially since I didn't think anyone would actually ask me. The best part is apparently he turned down some other FAR more attractive (like holy shit more attractive) girl and chose me instead god knows why, i have no find his hidden motive
The best part is apparently he turned down some other FAR more attractive (like holy shit more attractive) girl and chose me instead god knows why, i have no find his hidden motive"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder," as they say.
It doesn't have to be anything too impressive. Food they like is always good. For example, I knew a guy who had Wetzel's Pretzels shape some pretzels to spell out "PROM?".(https://www.ninsheetmusic.org/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.zbrushcentral.com%2Fattachment.php%3Fattachmentid%3D333064&hash=ecf825ff1f19b43196bdb3ea6b2fbd11)
...Its 11:35pm and I just asked my crush out via facebook.Bad. Shame on you.
Apparently she really liked me. I'm at a loss for words haha.Good. Congratulations!
...Its 11:35pm and I just asked my crush out via facebook.Wow, I'm amazed that worked out. I've always been told to NEVER ask someone out via technology. Then again, I can't say that's entirely true. I'm yet to get to the stage of asking anyone out. :P
Apparently she really liked me. I'm at a loss for words haha.
Wow, I'm amazed that worked out. I've always been told to NEVER ask someone out via technology. Then again, I can't say that's entirely true. I'm yet to get to the stage of asking anyone out. :PIdk, but it's just way easier too.
Hahahaha! You don't have to see their face, I suppose. Personally, I think confronting someone in real-life would make it much more satisfying. :PHaha yeah, it's just that it's harder to face possible rejection face-to-face, in my opinion. If they would say yes, I can see your point. :p
Congrats! But trust me, it stops being even remotely acceptable later on XD
Not really xD Maybe when you're older than 30 :P
Wow, I'm amazed that worked out. I've always been told to NEVER ask someone out via technology. Then again, I can't say that's entirely true. I'm yet to get to the stage of asking anyone out. :P
Well it's not like some people can help it, can they? *COUGH* :P
It's easier for me to close the chat program than to run away in real life.
I remember back when I was a kid when this guy tried to ask this girl out, and the whole class was staring at the two when he was asking. The girl turned pink and I think with that kind of pressure, you don't actually do what you would want to do?
(It was also creepy because they were both 11. Ick...)
cooties too stronkeww cooties *swats at air*
Being asked, I guess? There was this guy that was being all creepy to me online some years back (Concerto can tell you this too). In real life, he really could have done more than just talk, you know. I did tell him I wasn't interested first, of course.
Is this...that guy?
Love is not a permanent state of emotion, it tends to come and go in cycles whenever you fall for someone and as such it takes a bit of work to maintain that state of bliss. That said, it is entirely possible that you fell out of love for her and that's completely natural. Once you leave that state of being, you tend to notice the person far differently than before, and odds are that she didn't change that much, but your perception of her did.thanks for writing that. After drowning my thoughts in hours of aggressive sax-jamming I think I've concluded that I've just plainly fallen out of love with her, for some reason or another. I'm over that little depression, but now it just feels so weird; I can't remember the last time I didn't have someone I was in love with.
Don't worry about it or freak out because of this. It's completely natural and part of being human. Just take a moment to sort out these thoughts and feelings and see if she really changed or you are just seeing her in a more objective light.
After drowning my thoughts in hours of aggressive sex-jamming.
thanks for writing that. After drowning my thoughts in hours of aggressive sax-jamming I think I've concluded that I've just plainly fallen out of love with her, for some reason or another. I'm over that little depression, but now it just feels so weird; I can't remember the last time I didn't have someone I was in love with.
Adding to what Maestro said: In my experience, as you get older, and you experience other personalities on a larger scale; when looking back at that one person you sort of realize that there are these underlying qualities about their personality that you realize weren't all that attractive to begin with. You may not even be fully aware of why, but you know you don't feel that near-obsessive draw towards that person. That's definitely a relief in my book. The only thing you have to forgive yourself for is the time you can't get back investing into that someone. Who really cares though since it's all a learning experience in the end.
But it wasn't even when I was talking to him, but afterwards I started seriously blushing and shaking im such a fucking wimp
Me at the end of a romantic snowman-building date with this girl I'd been talking to over winter break: invite her into my room to hang out for a bit longer, she has to go to work right after so she can't sit or take off her jacket or anything, so we're both just standing awkwardly, making light conversation that we both know can't continue for over like five minutes, she has to leave and I'm just like, caught in the limbo of "to hug or not to hug", end up hugging but it's after an awkward pause, she's leaving through the hallway and I just walk out of sight and start silently cussing myself out. And that's set the tone for the rest of our interaction to date.
I keep becoming really good friends with people and then suddenly realizing I hate everything about them.
This is really annoying.
I keep becoming really good friends with people and then suddenly realizing I hate everything about them.Slow, you just need to look at positives in people focereal. It doesn't mean overlooking negative aspects, since flaws make us human. But don't let negative things affect why people are your friends, since they must've done something right to become your friend in the first place.
This is really annoying.
SFK keeps getting suckerpunched by lifeIf my experience has taught me anything, its that all girls worth investing time in are either engaged, secretly awful, or lesbians. Emphasis on that last one cuz I am magnetically pulled to girls with short hair, so you can imagine it tends to create problems for me.
If my experience has taught me anything, its that all girls worth investing time in are either engaged, secretly awful, or lesbians. Emphasis on that last one cuz I am magnetically pulled to girls with short hair, so you can imagine it tends to create problems for me.I blame Florida for all that. Florida is like 90% weirdos, so yeah..
Haha well she didn't speak up, so she's probably awkward about stuff too! xD I guess the next time that happens, tell her to just go to work so she won't get in trouble :P
Haha no yeah, I know that XD usually I'm really bad at reading people, so I don't make those kinds of assumptions, but from our conversation in the elevator, she was pretty blatantly flirting. She laughed a lot, and was blushing at one point, and just...general cues
Thisthough tbh just forget about girls and start playing for the other team because hotdamn
Yeah, Florida has some strange folks.
When we were walking into the building we did the whole "one person holds the first door, the next goes in and opens the next door for them" thing; it was pretty adorable, if I do say so myself.And then we talked some more in the elevator.
I don't even know what floor she lives on because she was going to the penthouse (we have a study lounge there).
Welp, guess I'll have to go to the study lounge more often. What a great excuse to be productive.
Straight guys are so dumb. I can't believe how obsessed they are with sex
Straight guys are so dumb. I can't believe how obsessed they are with sexThat sounds like a bias that isn't actually based on any fact or observation at all.
Edit: Just in case this sounded offensive, what I mean by this is that so many guys are motivated purely by sex and they just give no thought about anything else. I hate that
That sounds like a bias that isn't actually based on any fact or observation at all.I think "stereotype" would be a better word.
That sounds like a bias that isn't actually based on any fact or observation at all.
I think "stereotype" would be a better word.
Straight guys are so dumb. I can't believe how obsessed they are with sexWHOA! ALRIGHT THEN! You're not a straight guy either? Not motivated by sex, Slow? :P
When we were walking into the building we did the whole "one person holds the first door, the next goes in and opens the next door for them" thing; it was pretty adorable, if I do say so myself.
I used to do that with my old professor. And no xD
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Just sayin'
That sounds like a bias that isn't actually based on any fact or observation at all.I guess it fits well with the genero frat/douchey guy stereotype, and a lot of this forum seems to have had the misfortune of only having such despicable company.
so idk, maybe your professor was actually into you XD
Straight guys are so dumb. I can't believe how obsessed they are with sexI thought it was an evolutionary thing. Like male's evolutionary role is to shag anything that moves, so they do.
Edit: Just in case this sounded offensive, what I mean by this is that so many guys are motivated purely by sex and they just give no thought about anything else. I hate that
WHOA! ALRIGHT THEN! You're not a straight guy either? Not motivated by sex, Slow? :P
No, I kid. It's concerning how many people think about that, though, particularly men. It's not just men, though... XD
No I'm not quite straight, and I'm not motivated by sex either xD I care way more about intellectual pursuits than sexI just talk to my friends
And yeah girls are horny af too but they'll at least talk to people they aren't interested in having sex with, whereas a lot of guys won't
I talk to you all and I do have a vested interest in having sex with, like, at least 6 of you.
You know who you are...
I talk to you all and I do have a vested interest in having sex with, like, at least 6 of you.my room. 10 PM sharp.
You know who you are...
shag
shit
my room. 10 PM sharp.Well now we know 3 of the 6
be there.
Well now we know 3 of the 6care to make it a foursome
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Sorry, it's just that when I realize that people in other countries actually use words I only know from Austin Powers, I get kind of excited...
my room. 10 PM sharp.Haha, nonono. You will be ready for the sex when I say so. When I say "Drop 'em", you should already be naked.
be there.
care to make it a foursomeNow, now, folks. There's plenty of Maestro to go around.
There's plenty of Maestro to go around.Oh yes. How we know...
If you know what I mean...
Wow, so sudden!much love
I'm getting married in a week and a half. Shit is getting real</3
</3
dreams crushed
crying
I need rebound
where's slow
That deadline doe. Wish I could be there, would had most definitely come if I had the age and money to travel.
Tell your bf to never let go. Gotta come up with a Pokemon gift.
Thanks everyone! We're going for a civil union frstbecause we're flat brokeand a wedding is kind of a hassle to plan in the middle of the school year. We're planning on getting married in the near future though. I should totes invite my NSM crew (which means pretty much everyone) to the wedding hehe :D
go punch each other with toasters or something
Lol. As if I wanted a romantic relationshiphttp://www.sadtrombone.com/?play=true
Out of curiosity, when is the right time to ask someone if they're single?That's a pickup line
Out of curiosity, when is the right time to ask someone if they're single?Don't. Just ask them out and tell them that if they're already taken, they'd better break up.
Out of curiosity, when is the right time to ask someone if they're single?
Don't. Just ask them out and tell them that if they're already taken, they'd better break up.
So, cute ymca girl has a boyfriend. Wonderful...
back to the drawing board...
...tell them that if they're already taken, they'd better break up.
I had to give up a friend last Wednesday because she didn't want to jeopardize her relationship, and I've been feeling terrible since then.Nope, can't do it. Every single thing I do, every other thing somebody else says, and I could just snap right there. I'm stuck between what I want for myself and what I want for her, and I can't think anymore. She's not going to break up with her boyfriend. But I'm terrified to completely accept the not only possible, but probable outcome that I never talk to her again. And I see her every other day. I feel like exploding.
It's kinda a long story. We met in the pit orchestra for Sweeney Todd; after that ended, I got her phone number. She told me she wanted to be careful about texting guys because her boyfriend got jealous, so I was careful about letting her start the conversations. That basically got thrown out the window, and I gave up trying to help. Over spring break we both sent each other in excess of 150 messages a day. Her boyfriend got upset when she told him, as you could imagine, so we decided not to talk over the phone.
After a few days, she asked me for math tutoring, so I agreed, and helped her for a few days. One morning, her boyfriend apparently came looking for her, saw her talking to me, and got really mad about it. I don't know what he said to her or what she said to him, but she ended up telling me that I couldn't be in her life at all anymore, and I'm just really depressed.
Yes, I liked her. Yes, I told her. I also told her that I didn't expect anything at all from her. She also flat out said that she would have gone out with me if she didn't have a boyfriend, and was pretty blatant in general about liking me back as much as she would let herself.
So there's my "My Life Sucks" story... I feel stuck... Maybe saying something will help.
Ok, so uh, wow. Everything changed for the better last night.That sounds...
So, things with that girl I talked about last have still been pretty unclear, but it seems to me that signs point to "trying to let me down easy". I actually no longer care about that though, because...
One night, my friends and I were slightly inebriated, and they convinced me to get a Tinder profile. So I'm like, sure, why not. And even though I got a decent amount of matches, I didn't really do anything on it other than mess around for a while. I wasn't taking it seriously, because it usually ends up being more of a casual hookup app, and I don't really want that; if I did, I've had plenty enough opportunities this semester, anyways...
But then last night I matched with this absurdly cute girl. Her main picture is of her on the iron throne from GoT, and two more are of her in a tardis dress. Off to a great start. I start talking to her, say the amount of TV references in her pictures is impressive, she says thanks, the amount of attractive pictures in yours is impressive, too.
Oh shit, it's on. It is so on.
So we hit it off, talked until like 4 am, and this whole situation just started seeming more and more awesome:
1. She has an awesome sense of humor.
2. She literally brought up Twitch Plays Pokemon without me saying anything to warrant it.
3. HOLY SHIT WAIT SHE LIVES IN MY BUILDING
That last one kind of blew my mind. Like, I've lived in the same dorm as this awesome person for over 6 months, and I haven't even known. And to think I was so worried about things with this other girl who I don't have nearly as much chemistry with. Tinder, I'm sorry I ever doubted you.
Anyways, texting her, it already feels infinitely more like a relationship than with anyone else I've met at college, and we haven't even met up in real life yet (she's out of town for the weekend, urghhh). Once she's back and we're both free, though...goddamn, I am excited.
That sounds...
either creepy or extremely fortunate.
If you like someone I strongly suggest you be friends with them first for like a yearIf you want to torture yourself and risk infinite friendzoning, sure.
Don't start by asking to lunch or coffee.Unless you feel like having a nice afternoon with someone you're attracted to, sure.
Most girls are either taken or not looking.Completely wrong, but sure.
create a scenario in which you are forced to interact.Yes, because overthinking things make everything better, so sure.
Girls:Not true, but our society has developed the idea that requires men to initiate interaction and dating shit, while women are supposed to wait because if they took the role of "asking out" it could be seen as too forward or even creepy. But with women becoming more and more independent, these social stigmas are likely to change.
You have it easy gtfo.
If you want to torture yourself and risk infinite friendzoning, sure.I don't think getting to know somebody before you start dating them always means getting "friendzoned." Unless I'm mistaken, the point Psychic_Ness is trying to make is that some people don't like it if you try and rush into a relationship.
I don't think getting to know somebody before you start dating them always means getting "friendzoned." Unless I'm mistaken, the point Psychic_Ness is trying to make is that some people don't like it if you try and rush into a relationship.
Well, it doesn't always mean getting friendzoned, but if there's a spark and you don't take advantage of it, it may die down before you have a chance to get to know somebody in a truly intimate manner.He said "get to know the person," not "isolate them and ignore anything other than friendship," which in and of itself could be considered "friendzoning." :P That should be fairly obvious- it's not like you ignore all common sense just because you don't leap into a relationship right away. Though, he did say to "hold off any initial emotions you may have," which I agree is quite extreme.
And to recapitulate SFK's point, holy shit a year is such an absurdly long amount of time.While this is true, he didn't say that you had to for a year; specifically, he said "for like a year." TECHNICALITIES!
"isolate them and ignore anything other than friendship"
While this is true, he didn't say that you had to for a year; specifically, he said "for like a year." TECHNICALITIES!
Wait what is "anything other than friendship", because as far as I can tell that only includes being A: enemies, B: neutral acquaintances, or C: in a relationship, and I'm pretty sure none of those fit into his advice, so no, he totally did say that. Maybe not "isolate them" but I really don't see how I implied that, either...You specifically said "if there's a spark and you don't take advantage of it, it may die down before you have a chance to get to know somebody in a truly intimate manner," which, unless I am mistaken, is completely missing the point of what Psychic_Ness had to say.
completely missing the point
getting to know somebody outside of a relationship is completely different than getting to know them in a relationship
getting to know somebody outside of a relationship is completely different than getting to know them in arelationshiptruly intimate manner
If you like someone I strongly suggest you be friends with them first for like a year and hold off any initial emotions you may have. Get to REALLYYYY know them or else you're going to be in for a massive, massive, massive, headache. At first, that feeling of having a crush on someone tends to overrule logical decision making. The infatuation period should go away after a while
Now, let me point out every paraphrase of "spark" that psychic_ness encouraged us to ignore.The things is, he's not encouraging you to ignore the "spark" in the same manner you're thinking as it of. To word that more properly, he's thinking of something different than you are, but you're thinking of it in a completely different way and applying that to what he said. Of course, I can't speak for him, but I'm merely drawing conclusions from what he said.
Though, he did say to "hold off any initial emotions you may have," which I agree is quite extreme.
Yeah...you don't have much real world experience, do you?
If you want to torture yourself and risk infinite friendzoning, sure.
Unless you feel like having a nice afternoon with someone you're attracted to, sure.
Completely wrong, but sure.
Yes, because overthinking things make everything better, so sure.
Not true, but our society has developed the idea that requires men to initiate interaction and dating shit, while women are supposed to wait because if they took the role of "asking out" it could be seen as too forward or even creepy. But with women becoming more and more independent, these social stigmas are likely to change.
You obviously have yet to be introduced to the concept of "Risk and Reward".
I call it the Maestro Method of Engaging an Audience and Retaining Their HeartsMMEARTH
Laughing too hard to keep arguing, I give up
A year isn't a long time.> Year
he frequents the forums >.>indeed I do :3
I was actually going to join in until I realized there's never going to be an end to this
So the spark thing right?
That's why I decided to follow my gut reaction and laugh my ass off
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oh man, too funny
Now you see if you wanna get girlsActually, negate everything I said. I just realized Yugi won this argument 2 pages ago.
The king's orders are absolute.
Dude, from what it sounds like, you're trying wayyyyyy too hard. Dating is pretty fucking simple when it boils down to it. Look sharp, be confident, you see a girl who has something that clicks, you talk to her and with the right mixture of timing and dumb luck, you might just get a date.
You should totally get to know someone a bit before moving forward with anything, but you can't be a cautious little ninny or else you'll miss your chance at getting what you actually want. An intimate relationship.
But oh no, what if it doesn't work out and she rejects me or we break up??? Well tough shit, at least you took a shot. So it wasn't meant to be, big deal. Go out there and try again.
You can't just spend your whole life testing the waters or you'll eventually be the only person left on the shore. Grow some balls and take the fucking plunge.
Okay so argument after argument people go at it in this thread. How many of you have actually been a relationship that has lasted 6 months +. I am totally curious.I'm in a relationship with everyone I know
Your mother doesn't count.
How many of you have actually been a relationship that has lasted 6 months +. I am totally curious.
I'm in a relationship with everyone I know
Sluuuuuuuuttttttttt
SluuuuuuuutttttttttHe didn't specify which kind of relationship.
How many of you have actually been a relationship that has lasted 6 months +.*raises hand*
Okay so argument after argument people go at it in this thread. How many of you have actually been a relationship that has lasted 6 months +. I am totally curious.
does it count if i used time dilation
stuff
4. her roommates need to learn to knock
FierceDeity is gettin' it on. I suggest a sock on the door bro.NSM IS SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE MUSLIM TERRORIST HEAVEN. FULL OF VIRGINS.
FierceDeity is gettin' it on. I suggest a sock on the door bro.
...
Also, very happy for you FierceDeity!
NSM IS SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE MUSLIM TERRORIST HEAVEN. FULL OF VIRGINS.
COME ON YOU GUYS, QUIT RUINING THIS PLACE WITH YOUR PERFECT GENES AND IMPECCABLE SEXUAL CHARMS. FOR SHAME!
NSM IS SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE MUSLIM TERRORIST HEAVEN. FULL OF VIRGINS.
COME ON YOU GUYS, QUIT RUINING THIS PLACE WITH YOUR PERFECT GENES AND IMPECCABLE SEXUAL CHARMS. FOR SHAME!
Nocturne is 10/10 would bangeh i'd give him a low 8, personally.
Can't believe you excluded nocturne from that, he's clearly rolling in bitches right nowBecause anything about being sexy is OBVIOUSLY directed at at Nocturne, duh.
Why don't you tell us, mr. multi-promWell you all know about the first one
So, quick update on this situation, without all of the boring details.
1. We're dating now
2. She's even more amazing than I thought
3. Life is good
4. her roommates need to learn to knock
NSM IS SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE MUSLIM TERRORIST HEAVEN. FULL OF VIRGINS.
COME ON YOU GUYS, QUIT RUINING THIS PLACE WITH YOUR PERFECT GENES AND IMPECCABLE SEXUAL CHARMS. FOR SHAME!
Though the odds of meeting people in college is, like, zero.
Advice: go homo or go homeWell, I'm already at home, so....
Better to love and lose than never to have loved at all. Of course you could always just say "nah" and wait for college. Though the odds of meeting people in college is, like, zero.Oh, I have definitely loved and lost. I won't lie, I did kind of expect to meet a girl in college, but of course, it's always a gamble.
Kman, think of it this way: if things go awry, you may never be obligated to see those people ever again. If they go well, the people should understand the fact that you're leaving, like, really soon, and they probably shouldn't expect anything long-term. Just be open about your intentions, whatever they are, and if you fail, you get a fresh start in a couple months :PThe thing is, Fierce, that while I had my little moment last summer where I made out with a total stranger, I can't date someone without the honest intention of wanting to see it go further. That's what dating is for me; I'm not saying I intend to marry the girl(s) I date, but instead to get an idea of what I want from a relationship. And that's the thing. these girls aren't girls I could just date for a few months and then leave at the drop of a hat. I want to give them an honest chance. I thought that way about the girl I had a crush on in November. We made out a couple of times, and had a bit of a fling going on for several weeks, but I ended it abruptly because I knew it wouldn't end well. Granted, we're polar opposites morally, and 87% of the time we can't stand each other's presence, so its a wonder how we became attracted to one another in the first place.
most men can't handle 100% unfiltered Maestro.
Advice: go homo or go homequote of the year
Oh, I have definitely loved and lost. I won't lie, I did kind of expect to meet a girl in college, but of course, it's always a gamble.
The thing is, Fierce, that while I had my little moment last summer where I made out with a total stranger, I can't date someone without the honest intention of wanting to see it go further. That's what dating is for me; I'm not saying I intend to marry the girl(s) I date, but instead to get an idea of what I want from a relationship.
Advice: go homo or go home yosomewhat fixed but it kinda sounds lame
got tinderYes you can, you silly. They're probably just as nervous as you.
matched up with 2 people.
what do i do now ????
My heart is racing so hard right now i can't do this
BUT I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY AND ETF'S SELF HELP BOOK ISN'T HELPING
MAYBE AFTER SCHOOLS OUT AND I MOVE I'LL POST THE NEXT CHAPTER. HOPEFULLY.BWAHAHA that's never happening. COME ON, PROVE ME WRONG.
@Nebbles: I saw someone drink it out of their Trombone valve before. :P
Listen up guys (and I guess girls too, but I can't speak from experience): all you need is to be able to play smooth jazz on a brass instrument and you can have any woman you want but still keep the spit thing a secret ok
Ohhhh you're saying that your constant unkempt state is of a strategic nature, and not laziness huh....
Or you could do a Link hairstyle like your little felt thing in your picture :P
I mean I'm one of those people who has a ridiculously good memory for certain things so I never forget names or birthdays. But others do all the time.yeah, same here. I remember random birthdays and phone numbers without trying, but I can never seem to remember where I put my driving license.
I've never been with anyone who I can make out with while doing Lemon Grab impressions and then call senpai in a japanese schoolgirl voice. That's something you don't find every day.
The thoughts of a shy guy:Yeah, not bad. Also start off with easy questions and make sure you look interested in what they say otherwise they'll think you don't care.
"Wow, that girl is really pretty. Maybe I should go talk to her. No, I'll look like an idiot. But she's so-oh crap, she's coming this way. Shit shit shit, she just sat down next to you. Say something, you moron. Do it. For god sake! Crap, you waited too long, now if you say something, it's gonna be awkward! You missed the window fuck head!"
Girl:"Ummm, hi"
Shy guy: "Hi."
Thoughts: "Hi? That's all you could muster up, you couldn't at least go for small talk or something? Just die, right now."
True story. Seriously, the best way to deal with a shy person is to force them to talk. Usually they want to but just can't figure out how to start.
The thoughts of a shy guy:lol this is literally me on a daily basis with all people
"Wow, that girl is really pretty. Maybe I should go talk to her. No, I'll look like an idiot. But she's so-oh crap, she's coming this way. Shit shit shit, she just sat down next to you. Say something, you moron. Do it. For god sake! Crap, you waited too long, now if you say something, it's gonna be awkward! You missed the window fuck head!"
Girl:"Ummm, hi"
Shy guy: "Hi."
Thoughts: "Hi? That's all you could muster up, you couldn't at least go for small talk or something? Just die, right now."
True story. Seriously, the best way to deal with a shy person is to force them to talk. Usually they want to but just can't figure out how to start.
The thoughts of a shy guy:This is incredibly accurate and quote of the year.
"Wow, that girl is really pretty. Maybe I should go talk to her. No, I'll look like an idiot. But she's so-oh crap, she's coming this way. Shit shit shit, she just sat down next to you. Say something, you moron. Do it. For god sake! Crap, you waited too long, now if you say something, it's gonna be awkward! You missed the window fuck head!"
Girl:"Ummm, hi"
Shy guy: "Hi."
Thoughts: "Hi? That's all you could muster up, you couldn't at least go for small talk or something? Just die, right now."
True story. Seriously, the best way to deal with a person is to force them to talk. Usually they want to but just can't figure out how to start.
Shy guys are the worst tho even if they have a conception that they're quiet and shy and a nice person we're all incredibly self centered and whiny so I'd advise against being interested in one xoxo byePeople who are actually shy are quiet either because they're uncomfortable around people they aren't familiar with or because they don't want to be a bother to other people. Self-centered or whiny people who are quiet aren't shy, they're just bored with what they're doing and/or too conceited to converse with people around them at the time. At least in a sentence. The world's personalities are not composed only of different types of vanity.
The world's personalities are not composed only of different types of vanity.
True story. Seriously, the best way to deal with a shy person is to force them to talk. Usually they want to but just can't figure out how to start.I spent a very large chunk of time with this guy one-on-one where I continuously brought up subjects and today he still can't look me in the eye. My problem is that I don't have an opinion on whether I'm into him yet but he sure isn't helping himself and I'm just trying to be understanding.
Shy guys are the worst tho even if they have a conception that they're quiet and shy and a nice person we're all incredibly self centered and whiny so I'd advise against being interested in one xoxo bye
Slow I kinda see where you're coming from. Basically, shy people are shy because they are uncomfortable in their day to day situation and are very conscious of making a mistake and embarrassing themselves (speaking from experience). The idea is that even if they want to help others, they are still too caught up in what others think of them and are therefore somewhat self centered.Being "conscious of making a mistake and embarrassing themselves" is only one reason for being shy. As Zunawe said, many people who are shy because they're not comfortable around unfamiliar people, which isn't really being self-centered at all (being self-centered in this case, I would think, would mean ignoring other people because you place yourself on such a high pedestal).
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Shy guys are the worst tho even if they have a conception that they're quiet and shy and a nice person we're all incredibly self centered and whiny so I'd advise against being interested in one xoxo byeI can't really tell what you're saying because of the lack of punctuation in this post.
i think slows definition fits mael more than it does any other shy person in the world, hahaI'm not even sure what slow said.....
But not all shy people are awful, OK?
i think slows definition fits mael more than it does any other shy person in the world, haha
But not all shy people are awful, OK?
All people are awful though, no?This is what that last part was addressing. I think this kind of view on people is cynical (and, on a more personal level, wrong).
This is where you lost me. And make no mistake, most shy people are incredibly self centered and whiny. You don't need to like yourself to care about yourself, and certainly not to feel sorry for yourself.
As much as I hate to say it, slow is right. Shy people generally don't want to be shy, so when they're alone all the time, the only thing on their mind is how terrible and lonely their life is. Of course, there are situations where people actually don't want to socialize, in which case, while they won't be whiny, they're self centered as all hell to think that they're better than/don't need other people.That is a very extreme generalization.
I think this is rubbing off the wrong way though. Introverted people aren't bad people, they're just stuck in a cyclical cynical mind set.
because all introverts have identical personalities
Maybe YOU fellas have this opinion of yourselves, but I actually agree with BDS for a change, in that you're making really broad generalizations a personality trait that covers a HUGE scope.
But what can I expect from a bunch of stuck up, self-centered, cynical, SHY people. <sarcasm btw
Long story short, don't force him out of his bubble, he'll come out when he's ready.
Sorry for the double post, but this is not the way to handle it. Doing this will only make him think you're not interested. I can't remember who, but someone already hit the bulls-eye.It was probably SFK
I can't say I deal with any introverted/shy people aside from myselfI find this funny
Yeah, I was mostly posting for the group in general, not just you Fire. I can't say I deal with any introverted/shy people aside from myself on a daily basis, so i'm not a real authority on the issue.
Sorry for the double post, but this is not the way to handle it. Doing this will only make him think you're not interested. I can't remember who, but someone already hit the bulls-eye.As of right now though, I'm not interested. The only reason I'm still worrying about this is because I feel like I need to give him more time to do something because of the whole shyness thing. The problem is idk when enough time is enough (as it's been over half a year now...)
It sort of sounds like you're just sitting there expecting somebody that has no intentions of doing anything to do something and clearly that is not something that is likely to result in progress in any direction.
You can either make it something you try super hard at (seeeeeeems not worth considering your ambivalent feelings towards the individual anyway), or just say w/e and if mr shy suddenly springs to action when he sees you not trying so hard that could be a neat, though unlikely, bonus.
If you don't do anything, he wont do anything. He isn't ever going to brave through his shyness, because it's more than just shyness (if it was just shyness, he would at least be talking to you by now.) I hope that answers your quesiton.
I'm not quite sure I understand what your saying though. What are you doing now that you would stop doing when your done giving him more time?
It sort of sounds like you're just sitting there expecting somebody that has no intentions of doing anything to do something and clearly that is not something that is likely to result in progress in any direction.Probably should have clarified this, but he has done something before. He asked me to what I call mini-prom and caught me completely off guard, considering I literally never talked to him before that ever. Basically I'm just worried that he's going to surprise me with something again because apparently that's how he works. Meanwhile every day I'm on high alert and feel guilty whenever I think about anyone else because he's always in the back of my mind
You can either make it something you try super hard at (seeeeeeems not worth considering your ambivalent feelings towards the individual anyway), or just say w/e and if mr shy suddenly springs to action when he sees you not trying so hard that could be a neat, though unlikely, bonus.
Probably should have clarified this, but he has done something before. He asked me to what I call mini-prom and caught me completely off guard, considering I literally never talked to him before that ever. Basically I'm just worried that he's going to surprise me with something again because apparently that's how he works. Meanwhile every day I'm on high alert and feel guilty whenever I think about anyone else because he's always in the back of my mind#girl problems
I actually agree with BDS for a change
Probably should have clarified this, but he has done something before. He asked me to what I call mini-prom and caught me completely off guard, considering I literally never talked to him before that ever. Basically I'm just worried that he's going to surprise me with something again because apparently that's how he works. Meanwhile every day I'm on high alert and feel guilty whenever I think about anyone else because he's always in the back of my mind
Do asian girls tend to have a thing for nerdy white guys, or something? Because I seem to have unintentionally acquired a harem, and I am totally unfamiliar with this situation.A+ word choice
If international student, high probability of looking for dat citizenship marriage.
Most of the Asians I've talked to seem really proud of their race and would never date outside of it. Considering 90% of my friend are Asian, I actually find this really annoying. >_>As far as I know, the old Korean mindset is that you don't let your blood mix with other races.
Pants offdance off
That's how it works around hereIt's starting to all make sense now
If international student, high probability of looking for dat citizenship marriage.
Otherwise idk, maybe you're just a reasonable person and they enjoy your company and it isn't just because 'asian girl' since there is far more to that identifier than a single generalized persona :P
Shirt off
shoes off
That's how it works around here
Clearly it isn't low key enoughI love you fingerz
I love you fingerz
I love you fingerz
The fact that there are three individual instances of laughter followed by an ellipse is particularly funny to me.LOL...
But now it's kind of ambiguous as to whether she's dating this other guy, so I'm entirely unsure how to proceed. Probably asking a mutual friend for clarification soon.
-This one girl in a friend group of mine keeps blatantly hitting on me despite my complete lack of reciprocation and it's making it pretty uncomfortable to hang out with them
I think the best way to ask a girl out and to get more information about what she is actually looking for isSpoilerto just f***ing ask her out. Seriously, just ask her... Wtf is all this "Ask a friend to ask a friend to ask her about..."? I do not understand...[close]
Is she just hitting on you for fun, or is she serious about it? You should tell her if it's uncomfortable....
Conclusion: Just talk to people in an honest way...I think everybody could do good to listen to this advice.
Oh no yeah, I may not be the most confident dude but even I would never have a friend actually interact with somebody for me. I just want to know if she's actually dating this person just because there are a lot of tangible, negative outcomes that could result from me asking without knowing, such as making things uncomfortable with that friend group (it's not just her that I risk alienating), or being too much of a dick to the guy, because honestly I kinda like him.
It started off as completely serious, but now I think she's just continuing because she finds my (amply voiced) discomfort humorous, haha. It's not that bad, seeing as I just ignore her for the most part when I'm with those people, but I don't want to have to do that :/ I'm really not one for being an outright dick to people, ya know
But now it's kind of ambiguous as to whether she's dating this other guy, so I'm entirely unsure how to proceed. Probably asking a mutual friend for clarification soon.
Lol I had one of those awkward conversations where this random classmate just suddenly said "Wait, you two AREN'T dating?" to this other guy in my class and this whiny girl that always talks about herself (and her diet of fries and soup) while I was with them. I'm usually seen with the other guy too, so I don't know what made her think that? (Not that I was interested but I was too lazy to make other friends at that time)Are you in school or college?
SO I NEED TO ASK SOMEONE TO PROM BUT IDK HOW TO ASK A STRANGER. ANYONE DONE IT BEFORE?YES
I hate modern dating conventions
I hate modern dating conventionsI just reactivated my Tinder and got another app to try these modern dating conventions.
okay well I'd be asking someone who knows who I am
but the thing is when I was younger, believe it or not, I was really annoying. I can't believe nobody punched me. I would've punched myself. So I kind of had a bad reputation with EVERYONE. I was mature for about a year where I sat quietly in my classes and said nothing, then I jumped at the chance to go to college. So I don't really know anyone from my school well enough to be like hey, go to prom with me flowers cards chocolate stuffed animals bad puns? Is it okay just to ask someone to prom, basically.
Prom doesn't have to be some big romantic thing.that's kind of my goal here, just making it casual, but with a person I don't know very well
Unless you enjoy formal dancesactually I do haha
Prom is dumb, and I'm not just saying that because I got stood up(to an extent) at my senior prom, but rather because high school dating itself is frivolous. But this isn't my place to bitch and moan. You want to have fun at prom? Unless you enjoy formal dances, save some money and just go to after prom with some friends, imo much more enjoyable.It seems to me like people really make a big deal about prom, yet... the idea of such events doesn't really appeal to me.
um sowell, dance
in pe we're doing a dancing unit and the teacher picked who would be paired up for the whole unit
he paired me up with my crush
what do i do
um so
in pe we're doing a dancing unit and the teacher picked who would be paired up for the whole unit
he paired me up with my crush
what do i do
um soLol, happened to me last year :P
in pe we're doing a dancing unit and the teacher picked who would be paired up for the whole unit
he paired me up with my crush
what do i do
how are you a 16 year old senior wut?magic
The fun part about prom isn't the actual prom... but how are you a 16 year old senior wut?
Senior prom and whatnotnah I skipped that shit
big occasion doncha know
um sowen u hug, whisper in her ear, "dont go home. he knows" or "i see ded ppl" or "your hair smells good" or "i want fried chicken" (BECUZ ITS HIGHLY LIKELY SHE'D HAV FRIED CHICKEN N U GUYZ COULD GO IN THE CORNER 2GETHER 2 EET SUM)
in pe we're doing a dancing unit and the teacher picked who would be paired up for the whole unit
he paired me up with my crush
what do i do
*video*AGAHAHAHAHAHA
wen u hug, whisper in her ear, "dont go home. he knows" or "i see ded ppl" or "your hair smells good" or "i want fried chicken" (BECUZ ITS HIGHLY LIKELY SHE'D HAV FRIED CHICKEN N U GUYZ COULD GO IN THE CORNER 2GETHER 2 EET SUM)
Nah don't do any of those things. DONT BE CREEPY. DONT SMELL HER. DONT BE STRAIGHTFORWARD SAYING "i want u now." If it's ballroom dancing DONT MOVE YOUR HAND DOWN.but what if she smells good
but what if she smells goodMost girls are :P
like really really good
but what if she smells goodJust don't take obvious deep breaths or comment on her smell akaka
like really really good
My manhunk is so cute. I like to look at him during class. It's distracting. Should I mutilate his face so I could focus in class.No! If they find out, you will go to prison! :o Of course, that would solve the distraction problem...
So basically play it cool even though there's a good chance I can turn into a nervous idiot, got it.Welcome to the wonderful world of dating.
Rats. Well I get to date a cute boy if things work out, so I guess it can't be that bad, huh?then you break up with him but you want to stay friends because they're really cool and they were your best friend before you started dating. so you both make slight efforts to hang out after that, but one of you has a really busy schedule and slight efforts aren't enough. So even though you consider yourselves "friends" after the break-up, you've only ever been to her house after that in order to take care of her cats/turtle while she's out on vacation. she made a drawing for you and posted it on facebook, that was nice. but whenever you suggest hanging out or delivering a birthday present, she's either not home or she forgets about it the next day. A month later, you realize the cookies you were going to give her to reestablish your friendship are slightly expired, so you share it with your brother who is visiting from another country. they taste good.
GREAT WALL OF TEXT*brain explodes*
a. how do i tell when someone is flirting
b. how do i flirt
c. how do i not look stupid when flirting
d. how do i pick up signs if he's interested in me
Anyway it's a dangerous season for high schoolers not looking for a prom date rn >.>(https://33.media.tumblr.com/913ba20bccf008a0502ab3ac903749a7/tumblr_mv7eif3LY81rwva3mo5_500.gif)
post.I ship it.
I have a scary intuition for when someone has a crush...Yup, me too! But it doesn't work for me, so proving the point that all amazing abilities have their downfall... XD
I ship it.He's half a foot shorter than me and taken so
Yup, me too! But it doesn't work for me, so proving the point that all amazing abilities have their downfall... XDYep, thats the same for me. I hate getting caught off guard but what can you do
Cute guy friend apologized to me for not having super great communication when trying to plan hang outs because work had kept him super busy and he said he doesn't want to seem like he's being flaky with me, so that made me pretty happy. Poor boy really does want to hang out, he's just so busy...You should post a pic of him. I'm very very curious of what he looks like.....
I mean, if we end up dating and take a cute picture together or something, sure.Yeah, this is what I meant. I wouldn't want you to post a pic of him without his permission :P
(https://www.ninsheetmusic.org/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.troll.me%2Fimages%2Fbush%2Fship-it.jpg&hash=97d2ca0300f91cbc5346624456980ab9)XD lol
You know when you can't tell if someone is dropping hints or not? Bluh, I'm so dense....Or they're being way too subtle.
In my experience, guys are usually pretty dense, so it's not just you. Subtle hints don't work so a girl often has to just come right out and say "I like you" or "Let's hang out" or whateverThe problem for many people is that they don't want to misinterpret something that wasn't a "hint" as a "hint," and thus come across the wrong way.
But honestly I wish guys would do that too!
You know when you can't tell if someone is dropping hints or not? Bluh, I'm so dense.Hahaha! Nope, I can tell if someone's hinting at something no matter how slight it is... So long as I don't like 'em myself. If I do, I don't know what they're doing anymore. XD
The problem for many people is that they don't want to misinterpret something that wasn't a "hint" as a "hint," and thus come across the wrong way.
I know of so many people that just string someone along until the other person breaks down and freaks out. (I know because I've been there -_-)Preach it brother, me too.
what a way to start the 100th page
what a way to start the 100th page
Who knows, maybe one day he will see the light and you can escape that dreaded "friend zone."
Or he's gay, so you were doomed from the start.
I have to appeal to both sides of the spectrum of optimistic/pessimistic outcomes.
I'd turn straight for you any day. <3^
whatI'd turn straight for you any day. <3^
what*laughs hysterically*
what a way to end the 100th page
After a 2 year search I have finally found the 4th Mrs. Maestro.
I hope she likes the first 3.
As long as you're not Bluebeard lol(https://www.ninsheetmusic.org/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi3.kym-cdn.com%2Fentries%2Ficons%2Foriginal%2F000%2F017%2F204%2FCaptainAmerica1_zps8c295f96.JPG&hash=ce646cab96914885d20a1056c14c3e1e)
*picture**clap clap clap clap clap*
some guys are just as difficultsorry
HOLY CRAP CAN YOU PEOPLE THAT HAVEN'T SHOWN UP FOR EXTENDED PERIODS OF TIME STOP DOING THAT THING IT'S WEIRDING ME OUT
I should try and get bloo to make a post.Don't bother. I try every day :/
It's worth noting, though, that the most of people's disagreements with Blue came from the politics and religion threads. He could of easily stayed and contributed to the site while staying out of those if he couldn't handle it or didn't want to handle it or whatever the situation is.for someone who's so smart, you sure make a lot of common grammar errors
It seems to me Blue was ready to be done with NSM, unlike Deku who seemed to just gone on indefinite break rather than saying "I'm gone and not coming back" kind of thing.
for someone who's so smart, you sure make a lot of common grammar errors
anyway, a lot of people on this site are pretty dumb when it comes to important topics and blue was sick of trying to explain to these certain people exactly what they were doing wrong (hint: calling people bigots for standing up for their beliefs is not a cool thing to do). So it wasn't those 2 threads that caused problems, it was the people ridiculing him for his personal ideology. Also why even post 16 days late about something that doesn't even have to do with the topic
PDS pls
hope you know you're one of those people ::)
Hope you're being sarcastic.
BTW, our new mods sure are doing a great job at keeping the peace!!No one's been insultingly burned yet. Let's keep it that way.
No one's been insultingly burned yet. Let's keep it that way.
From a biased point of view, I guess.
The mod's job is to make it so we don't have all hell breaking loose- not equivalent to the usual run-of-the-mill arguments between the two unspoken kinds of people at NSM.
I saw this thread got posted in and thought I was gonna get a juicy relationship problem that I could help work through >:[ someone better either cut the argument or bring me some love troublethere aren't any cute girls in my town wat do
there aren't any cute girls in my town wat doRethink your definition of cute ; ) cuteness is far more prevalent in personality traits than physical appearances, but you'll never see those traits if you turn them away without getting to know them
there aren't any cute girls in my town wat doWait are you living in Tooele rn?
No one's been insultingly burned yet. Let's keep it that way.
for someone who's so smart, you sure make a lot of common grammar errorsYeah. This one was, anyways.
anyway, a lot of people on this site are pretty dumb when it comes to important topics and blue was sick of trying to explain to these certain people exactly what they were doing wrong (hint: calling people bigots for standing up for their beliefs is not a cool thing to do). So it wasn't those 2 threads that caused problems, it was the people ridiculing him for his personal ideology. Also why even post 16 days late about something that doesn't even have to do with the topic
PDS pls
hope you know you're one of those people ::)And while this isn't the nicest thing to say, banning people because they're mean is a bit authoritarian. Everyone is perceived as mean by someone (though some more than others).
That said, I shall actually respond to this post, in the [not dating drama] topic.thank
im trying to call this one person to arrange a date but they arent picking up the phone, and there's a 99% chance neither of us will have time to hang out once school starts
...i guess i could just text them or send them a facebook message?
1) how long you been dating
2) is there a reason this is a problem *now*?
You'll have to make the decision (preferably with your girlfriends input) of whether or not you want to go long distance. It's a tough choice, and one that's entirely your own. However, it should be said that long distance relationships are nearly if not always quite hard; that being said, if you feel the relationship is worth enough to you to keep going (which it seems you do), then by all means try and make it work long distance.
Sigh... girls are difficult. (Pertinent bump...)