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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1560 on: May 01, 2016, 06:13:55 AM »

Height is pretty different, though; if you don't tell someone "Hey, by the way, I'm actually really tall," it's not going to physically impact them in any way (and if they decide they don't want to date you because you're tall, the end result is the same, and you dodged a bullet!). Also, it's kind of an obvious physical feature once they meet you and see you standing up (which, based on your post, might be happening soon). If you do tell someone that (as in, drawing specific attention to it with no prompt from the other person), and they don't mind at all, then you could come across as self-conscious or insecure, which generally doesn't leave a favorable impression.

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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1561 on: May 01, 2016, 06:27:17 AM »

Your height is not comparable to an std lmao. BDS is right, just be natural about it.
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I think I'm just curious to see if in the end things don't work out its because of my height or something else. I don't like hearing people say things like "if he doesn't like your height he's not good enough for you!!" because it's totally reasonable to not want someone taller than you and plenty of great guys don't
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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1562 on: May 01, 2016, 06:30:51 AM »

plenty of scumbag guys don't

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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1563 on: May 01, 2016, 07:06:21 AM »

Honestly though, yes. Height shouldn't actually be a factor because there are so many other substantial things. Ask any guy if they would date their perfect partner under the condition that they're a foot taller than them, and only the fools will say no.
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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1564 on: May 01, 2016, 07:24:30 PM »

Have you guys ever had a height issue with a relationship though? You couldn't find your perfect partner if they're a foot taller, because then they wouldn't be perfect. You can fantasize about loving the person for themselves and not their appearance but the size issue comes up. A lot. You're not a fool or scumbag because you don't want that
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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1565 on: May 01, 2016, 08:03:10 PM »

it just seems like such an insignificant factor.
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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1566 on: May 01, 2016, 08:04:28 PM »

I dunno, I agree with Bubbles - I'm already short and I wouldn't want to date someone necessarily short either. I'd definitely prefer someone taller.

I mean, who else is gonna reach the top of the shelf?
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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1567 on: May 01, 2016, 10:13:36 PM »

Lol, I don't like being tall, one of my friends gets up close to me and I see EVERYTHING!
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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1568 on: May 01, 2016, 10:48:40 PM »

I'm gonna have to agree with bubbles here. A surprising number of straight guys I know have "shorter than me" as a requirement because "it's awkward when she's taller than you ya'know?" A lot of guys really value dominance in relationships I guess I dunno?
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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1569 on: May 02, 2016, 12:44:44 AM »

I was *hanging out* with someone a foot taller at least and it wasn't too bad. Hugs look like this though:



Sitting on the couch made other stuff easier.

I think you're thinking too much about this, since can't be as bad as this:



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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1570 on: May 02, 2016, 12:47:07 AM »

But I can't imagine that as an actual ultimatum from a reasonable person. Maybe it's different coming from a tall guy, but I think it's a shallow idea.

I don't mean to say it might not be a little awkward, but that shouldn't hinder something that would otherwise be great.

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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1571 on: May 02, 2016, 01:18:54 AM »

I dunno, a lot of people aren't reasonable than.

Not everyone that avoids a relationship for some arbitrary quality is a shallow assholes. Like, someone could be super nice and have great chemistry with you but they get stuck on some dumb fetish or lack thereof. So yes, having a quality that's often but pointlessly deemed as "undesirable" probably is really frustrating. And I don't think telling bubbles it's not an issue is going to help her any either.

My 2 cents at least.
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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1572 on: May 02, 2016, 01:21:22 AM »

and I'm just over here being 5'6" and shrugging
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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1573 on: May 02, 2016, 01:36:28 AM »

Not to mention, I feel weird when the guy is significantly shorter. It makes me feel like an escort or something and tbh it's really demeaning. And you know it's always going to come up in conversations too

But anyway the whole point of this is I don't want to make this guy feel like I've been lying to him because, even if not liking a taller girl makes him a shallow asshole, he'd still feel upset after putting effort into me. But at the same time I don't want to mention it because I'm curious, and idk if that's selfish or not

Zunawe would you date someone 4+ inches taller than you? Just curious bc you said you were tall (and don't lie lmao the whole point is that to doesn't make you an ass). Like if you're already that tall I feel you have the right to only choose people shorter because that's who you're most likely to come in contact with and therefore grow more comfortable with
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Re: Relationships
« Reply #1574 on: May 02, 2016, 01:52:04 AM »

Before seeing this guy in person:

Me (thinking): Pleasebeshorterthan5'8"Pleasebeshorterthan5'8"Pleasebeshorterthan5'8"Pleasebeshorterthan5'8"...
"I'm taller than 6ft"

Since we got along well at that point, I wasn't going to tell him that certain things like ballroom dancing were going to be too hard to do.

and I'm just over here being 5'6" and shrugging

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just an observation, but then I don't really see many guys shorter than 5'8 now. Unless you're 7' tall, significantly shorter isn't going to be that common.

And I don't think telling bubbles it's not an issue is going to help her any either.
If it's actually an extreme insecurity, there isn't anything anyone could say would help you -.-
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