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[Maelstrom]

i think slows definition fits mael more than it does any other shy person in the world, haha

But not all shy people are awful, OK?

I'm not even sure what slow said.....
And I'd say most shy people are different online....

[SlowPokemon]

i think slows definition fits mael more than it does any other shy person in the world, haha

But not all shy people are awful, OK?

All people are awful though, no? And mael in ways who we are online is more real than who we are outside the Internet tbh ;o

[Zunawe]

All people are awful though, no?

This is what that last part was addressing. I think this kind of view on people is cynical (and, on a more personal level, wrong).

[FireArrow]

This is where you lost me. And make no mistake, most shy people are incredibly self centered and whiny. You don't need to like yourself to care about yourself, and certainly not to feel sorry for yourself.

As much as I hate to say it, slow is right. Shy people generally don't want to be shy, so when they're alone all the time, the only thing on their mind is how terrible and lonely their life is. Of course, there are situations where people actually don't want to socialize, in which case, while they won't be whiny, they're self centered as all hell to think that they're better than/don't need other people.

I think this is rubbing off the wrong way though. Introverted people aren't bad people, they're just stuck in a cyclical cynical mind set.

[BlackDragonSlayer]

As much as I hate to say it, slow is right. Shy people generally don't want to be shy, so when they're alone all the time, the only thing on their mind is how terrible and lonely their life is. Of course, there are situations where people actually don't want to socialize, in which case, while they won't be whiny, they're self centered as all hell to think that they're better than/don't need other people.

I think this is rubbing off the wrong way though. Introverted people aren't bad people, they're just stuck in a cyclical cynical mind set.

That is a very extreme generalization.

[SuperFireKirby]

because all introverts have identical personalities

Maybe YOU fellas have this opinion of yourselves, but I actually agree with BDS for a change, in that you're making really broad generalizations a personality trait that covers a HUGE scope.

But what can I expect from a bunch of stuck up, self-centered, cynical, SHY people. <sarcasm btw

[mikey]

This is almost a derail but it's still on topic.
Bubbles' question is answered guys, let's go home.

[Roz~]

because all introverts have identical personalities

Maybe YOU fellas have this opinion of yourselves, but I actually agree with BDS for a change, in that you're making really broad generalizations a personality trait that covers a HUGE scope.

But what can I expect from a bunch of stuck up, self-centered, cynical, SHY people. <sarcasm btw

Ily

[MaestroUGC]

Be careful not to confuse an introvert for being shy. You can have shy extroverts too, people who do very well in social situations but aren't good with new people/things. Whereas typical introverts do very well one-on-one/small groups and in areas they have interests in.

Also, no, not all shy/introverted/quiet people are self-centered. It's just to which degree they get excited about certain subjects. I guarantee you if you were to approach this guy about something he really enjoys (hobbies, sports, area of study, himself) he'll probably perk up if he's just introverted.

If not then you might intimidate or otherwise make him uncomfortable for whatever reason.

Long story short, don't force him out of his bubble, he'll come out when he's ready.

[FireArrow]

Replace the word "shy" with the word "loner." I don't think we're talking about the same thing. People who are simply not comfortable in unfamiliar situations is not what I'm getting at. I'll agree, My use of the word introvert was probably inappropriate, as it really doesn't pertain to what I'm talking about.

[FireArrow]

Long story short, don't force him out of his bubble, he'll come out when he's ready.

Sorry for the double post, but this is not the way to handle it. Doing this will only make him think you're not interested. I can't remember who, but someone already hit the bulls-eye.

He WANTS to talk to you, he's just afraid to. Your positive social ques will fly right over his head, and any negative ones he's gonna misinterpret and take to heart. So approach him in a way that doesn't give him the chance to misunderstand your intentions.

[mikey]

Sorry for the double post, but this is not the way to handle it. Doing this will only make him think you're not interested. I can't remember who, but someone already hit the bulls-eye.

It was probably SFK
He's got this down to heart, apparently

[MaestroUGC]

Yeah, I was mostly posting for the group in general, not just you Fire. I can't say I deal with any introverted/shy people aside from myself on a daily basis, so i'm not a real authority on the issue.

[mikey]

I can't say I deal with any introverted/shy people aside from myself

I find this funny
It just makes sense

[FireArrow]

Yeah, I was mostly posting for the group in general, not just you Fire. I can't say I deal with any introverted/shy people aside from myself on a daily basis, so i'm not a real authority on the issue.

Well, most of my blabbering comes from experience as a person with aspergers syndrome, so it's pretty frivolous for me to assume that it would apply to other people. You're probably just as qualified (if not a thousand times more cuz Maestro wisdom) as I am. :3

I do have to say though, the guy in bubbles situation is literally me. That's pretty much what I do every time I try to make friends/have a crush on someone. The whole "why doesn't he talk to me even though I've already established myself on talking terms with him" comes from a blurring and misunderstanding of social thresholds.